How Do You Deal With People Who Act Like The World Owes Them A Living?

I knew one exactly like that. In fact, one of his (many) ex-bosses once said to me, "He acts as though the world owes him something." This was 20-some years ago.

He is an ex of mine. I met him recently after not seeing him for 15 years or so, and he is still exactly the same. He has nothing but his ego to his name. He has never owned his own home, never bought his own car, and was always begging me to "give him a break" on the child support because he had no money and had to feed his new family. Yeah, right, like I'm going to do that? No way! Like the judge told him at a child support hearing, "You should have thought about your responsibilities before you started a new family." He was very happy to become the father of our son at the time, but never wanted to pay for the privilege. I had to throw him out because I owned the house we lived in and almost lost it because of him.

Yes, I know the type. I will not give him a break. Not even a tiny one. I did a lot for him in the past and was never repaid. Child support has caught up with him now, since he owes over $25,000.00 in arrears, and will take his driver's license away if he stops paying. He's STILL asking me for a break!

One more thing I almost forgot. I have a friend who is very similar to the person you mentioned. She'll buy new clothes, shoes, go to expensive restaurants, etc. and then complain about having no money for her bills. This is a constant thing, too; not just one or two times.

I try to tell her that she has to tighten her belt and pay bills first, but she never listens. Every now and then, when I've had enough, I'll burst out with what is really on my mind and tell her, "Then starve. At least you'll be wearing nice clothes in your casket!" She usually shuts right up, stays quiet for awhile, then calls to apologize for the way she was acting.

Of course, it always starts right back up again later, but for a little while things aren't so bad.

Good luck!

Don't deal with them!
Just avoid interacting with them or don't lend them an ear. Once you start listening to the first few words of their current pet peeve, they feel that they have your sympathetic ear and then there's no stopping them.
Politely find a way to get out of the conversation, once you do it too often, I am sure that they will get the message and maybe hate you for ever, but then you are rid of such a person's rants.

Can you do anything to change a person like that? Why should you even care, unless it is someone close to you. Then depending upon the nature of the person, use your mind and make her/him see the error of her/his ways.

This life is too nice to interfere into other's matters.

I am sure we allknow of people like this and maybe
if you talk hard enought at her you might get
through to her that she needs to do stuff for
herself and find a better paying job instead of
complaining. It is easy to complain but harder
to work at finding a better job.

if i have a friend like that maybe i just ignore her..knowing her capabilities and her background ..my advices i guess will be just pass through deaf ears..

KrauseHome I can feel ur frustration, and I do sympathize with u having to listen to this woman everyday at work, but I can tell u from my own experience[yes, I've met quite a few of them] people such as this are in a "MindSet". That mindset has been there,in most cases, all of their lives. Also, that mindset is not necessarily a fault in upbringing. All of us have differing personalities, similar at a few points, but unique in itself completely. I think u can agree in a family with several siblings u will find one strong, one quiet, one whiner and so on. I have looked at ur profile page and I think that I am right in my assumption that u are a christian, so I believe I can safely say this to u and u will understand what I mean by it. Personally, I believe every single one of us has a dark side, a sinful side we have to deal with. Some do it more successfuuly than others, some don't even try, but I believe that for some of us [which I was one of them at one time] there is no chance in haiti for us to overcome the dark, sinful side of our soul or personality without the intervention of Jesus.....and He MUST be invited to do so. Maybe this woman is one of those that it takes Christ Jesus to transform. If so, start praying diligently for her. There is a scripture in the Bible that says [paraphrasing now] "that we are like iron to flint sharpening one another". U know, like when u sharpen a knife blade against a whet stone. It sounds like to me that ur edge is just about honed as sharp as u can stand it. LOL! In otherwords, she's been rubbing u the wrong way, so it's time to get the Lord after her and off ur back. If the Lord leads you to say something to her, speak up loud and clear, but not just to humiliate her in front of others. Jesus would never do that to u. He didn't bring one word of accusation against the adulterous woman in scripture, and in fact, He quietly dared anyone else to..... while He wrote in the sand, remember?.

GOOD LUCK!
MAMA VICKIE

Well there are definitely this kind of people. I will just leave them there, complaining about their things themselves. Even though they complain it to me, I will send out some signal that I am not willing to listen to that. I suppose they will soon find it meaningless to complain to me and go to the others. That's how I deal with them.

I believe we all know people like this, it is weird my husband works his butt off and every once and awhile he will say why cant we just catch a break. I just look at him and say we have gotten a break we have a roof, food health and steady jobs what else can you ask for? He just looks at me and chuckles. His step father rest his sole use to complain all the time well this isnt fair that isnt fair,I can not do this and I can not do that. Use to drive me banana's. One day I unloaded on him and said what makes you any different than every other struggling person, why do you think you deserve more than all the rest. Do you think money and success just knocks on your door? I told him I was tired of his moaning and groaning and only he could change his life and his financials. Ummmmmm he went out and finally got a part time job and got things that he wanted. Sometimes we have to be bold and come right out and say it. That is what I think lol

I think we all know people like this. There might even be a mental illness that goes with this .... some sort of persecution syndrom. The world is a cold and cruel place and poor poor me I am the victim of a conspiracy.

I have a friend like this. She won't listen when people tell her that it is her fault she can't pay her bills because those $900 shoes and that $1,500 purse cost more than two months rent. No we won't loan her the money for her gas bill again!

There are lots of people in the world who really believe that the world spins on the axis of their desires and demands. That they have nothing they have to do to ensure the outcomes they want, other than get up in the morning. When they don't get the outcome they want they go into beeatch mode and begin the campaign of Hades ... blaming everyone but themselves for what happens next. No matter what you tell them they don't hear you. If you try to say stop what you are doing then you are in on the conspiracy to do them harm.

It is hard to watch these people self-implode. Especially if you care for them. Sometimes though that is all you can do.

I don't know about the exempt thing and how that relates to earned income. Not saying you're not right.. just saying it's an area I don't get because I've never looked into it or the legalities.

I do however, believe that everyone should be able to enjoy life even if they are poor and that includes having pets. However it must be kept in balance as well. I would not be poor and feed my pets Science diet for instance LOL.

I see that it is NOT fair that humans must struggle yet accept it as a fact of life. It really does take 2 incomes these days. For those of us with only one.. it bites big time. Perhaps she's not qualified to get a higher paying job? Perhaps her resume isn't good enough? I wouldn't know.

I don't know what state she's in but I remember a time when I received foodstamps as a single mom with 4 children. I had to go to work and I made $600/month. SO foodstamps took away my $280/month. My rent was $655 at the time. Is this fair? I no longer qualified for foodstamps but now didn't have enough income to even meet my rent much less groceries. And I've had times when I had to get free food because the foodstamps wasn't enough to live through the month or because the state screwed up on my case and it takes them months to fix their mistakes. It happens. The system is desperately broken.

I'd never be able to beg people for help or food as in my neighbors, friends, or co-workers. A certain amount of pride would stop me from humiliating myself that way. But I do understand the struggle.