Found a bowl in stepson's bedroom yesterday
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
May 24, 2008 7:10pm CST
And no it was not the kind for ice cream or cereal....
It was innocent enough, I was not snooping, I had to go in to leave his mail (he was at his mom's house all week and still is) and the bowl (smoking pipe for things besides tobacco for those who don't know) was laying right there by his bed out in the open.
I handed it over to s/o for him to deal with. (lol, he threw it in his glove box without thinking, halfway home last night he realized how much trouble he'd be in if he got pulled over! He moved to his toolbox today)
I can't say I'm totally surprised. I just wasn't expecting to find it here in this house, I thought he was smarter than that.
So...here's what I'll toss out to you...what punishment is fitting? He's rarely allowed to use the computer, his tv is hooked up to his x-box but not the satellite, he has a car in his name but we pay the insurance (he's supposed to but is always conveniently broke when the payment is due...but that's another discussion) and my vehicle is currently out of commission. He had a job but his hours were cut and now he's lucky to get one day a week...and without a diploma and still being under 18 he hasn't had much luck, and now he's missed two of his weekly GED classes...
So what would you do? And his mother does have an extra bedroom now so that's an option in my opinion! Oh and we can't kill him...we can have thoughts but we'd get in trouble if we actually did it LOL...unless you want to suggest places to hide the body!
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7 responses
@urbandekay (18278)
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25 May 08
He works one day a week, so has little money. He is rarely allowed to use the computer and his telly is not linked to the satellite. Now, why would he start toking? An obvious answer seems to suggest itself!
I think it was Thoreau who said,
"If you want you kids to keep their feet on the ground better put some weight on their shoulders."
all the best urban
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
25 May 08
I love that quote.
Thanks for sharing it here with us all.
This is a great suggestion.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 May 08
I know...but this is an area where I'm not allowed to be the parent.
@ellie333 (21016)
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25 May 08
Well firstly if he can afford to smoke illegal stuff he can afford to pay for his own car insurance. I would remove the Xbox initally as that is something he probably would miss the most and if he doesn't knuckle down yes maybe back to mums for a while but with my own children I have been lucky and even when one of my daughters was living away from home she always knew she had a home here to come to which in fact she recently did so to kick him out would be harsh. No real good hiding places for bodies these days they always appear again at a later date and with forensics so good these days I'd give the murder bit a miss LOL. Whatever you and your husband decide to do good luck. I wouldn't like to be in your shoes right now. Ellie :D
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 May 08
I wanted the xbox gone a while ago...but s/o says no because girlfriend is paying $20-$30 a month at rent-a-center for it (was a Valentine's present) and it "would be a waste" to have it sit not being used 
I think I would do the kicking out part politely...not like "I hate you get out of my house" but like "we can't have this here so you need to go until you straighten out"
LOL...more off topic than on but, speaking of hiding bodies...an old buddy of s/o's killed a woman and hid the body a mile or so from here (12-13 years ago). We're in a real rural area and he never expected her to be found but 3 weeks later she was, stepson's mom recognized the clothing because they'd been here the night before the murder...yadda yadda yadda...the buddy is in prison, life without parole. S/o still says, jokingly, if he'd known ahead of time he could have thought of a lot better ways to hide the body and the buddy wouldn't have gotten caught lol.
I think I would do the kicking out part politely...not like "I hate you get out of my house" but like "we can't have this here so you need to go until you straighten out"
LOL...more off topic than on but, speaking of hiding bodies...an old buddy of s/o's killed a woman and hid the body a mile or so from here (12-13 years ago). We're in a real rural area and he never expected her to be found but 3 weeks later she was, stepson's mom recognized the clothing because they'd been here the night before the murder...yadda yadda yadda...the buddy is in prison, life without parole. S/o still says, jokingly, if he'd known ahead of time he could have thought of a lot better ways to hide the body and the buddy wouldn't have gotten caught lol.1 person likes this
@ellie333 (21016)
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26 May 08
Sounds like S/O is a bit of a softie re his son then but while he is under your roof he needs to show respect and not smoking that stuff in your home is something that must stop or like you say nicely show him the door eh!
Just as well your S/O didn't know and help him otherwise he would have been in jail too or maybe not cos if he hade hid wouldn't have been found!!!
Good luck re the step son situation though. Ellie :D
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
27 May 08
I'm from the south, we can always find a place to hide the body lol, I would give him two options, either he get his butt straightened out, get a more steady job, go to his classes, and do not bring anything into my house, or go live with his mother if he thinks she'll put up with it. As for his vehicle and always being broke when it's time to pay the insurance, is the car and insurance in his name? If the car is not in his name, take the keys, and take him off the insurance. Or tell him that he shows you proof the insurance is paid or you take the keys, thereby saving him money for a ticket. I'm glad his dad decided to get that out of his car, cause he would have had a hard time convincing a cop it wasn't his lol.
@olivebranch56 (910)
• United States
25 May 08
Foxy, Don't you have younger children in the house? I think I remember that, if so his butt wouldn't even come back to get his things, I would pack him up and take the stuff to him. As for his insurance being in your name, think about what would happen to your rates if he were driving high and got into an accident. It is none of my business, but you did ask, he would be bye, bye.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 May 08
Ugh...he's already wrecked one vehicle so his share of the insurance on his car is already equal to what we pay for our two vehicles combined. That's why I made it clear to s/o that he was to pay his half but when the bill comes he's always broke and s/o won't push the issue...I'd just drop his insurance if I could but s/o says no/ I don't know who to blame more for all the problems, s/o or stepson.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Well first thing I would do is find out if he is having any problems that he can't deal with..Then see if maybe it was just a peer pressure thing or just something he was curious about..Then depending on the reason, I would talk and communicate to see where to go from there...If it was just a curious/peer pressure, telling him how you feel about it may make him think abouot it..If he is having a problem, then going to the root of the problem may be all you need to do..
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 May 08
Hmm...one tall scrawny white almost 18 year old male with a bad attitude and a tendency to ignore everybody and sleep til afternoon, apparent genetic flaw from his father, do not expect him to dicipline or raise your grandchildren...I'm thinking I'd have to pay someone to take him, and he's too tall for a large shipping box by USPS standards so there'd be the extra charge to freight him out...
I think I may just speak to his mother this week and see what she has to say about it.
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@Sissygrl (10909)
• Canada
26 May 08
I dunno what i'd do. . When my parents found out i was smoking pot i was still in school, they allowed me do smoke as long as it was just on weekends. . but we're canadian so i guess its different.. And they had different morals. . Now i learned an important lesson they failed to teach me. . Pot smoking although not to risky, DOES makes you lazy, paranoid, and gives your no short term memory! So it wasn't too long till i was done in school.I wont allow my daughters to smoke.
