abraham lincoln said man is about as happy as he makes up his mind to be.  

you are so right as grumbling only makes you more
unhappy.

I think that is so right.we canmake ourselves happy
if we just bother to look inside ourselves.

Tiara, I think when we meet our true soul mate that we compliment each other, but our happiness is independent of each other not interdependent. I so agree with you.

Oh man, how can I agree more? How are both of you, we seem to be alike in our thoughts here! We are interdependent, and need other people. But we can cry when we get hurt, pick ourselves back up and march on with a smile on our face once we feel it again! And so many things can happen to make us smile! A rainbow, a baby's smile or laughter, a good movie, taking a walk (it can be a physical problem, as not enough exercise reduces the amount of neurotransmitters in our brain! AS long as we are determined to feel happy despite our life, then we will find a way! Did I mention meditation yet?

me too I would have been miserable had I not
married and had two kids and a great husband to
boot. his laughter was so contagious. He also
said only I can make me happy. but he sure did
help.

Good Eve to you All Ladies..
I see yes, that we share a common thought...isn't it grand to be a happy woman? :)* Nothing like it!*

I just thought of something! Never underestimate the power of a happy woman!

What a great saying Olivemai! I am keeping that one if you don't mind and passing it on! xoxoxo
Thank you Dear Friend for thinking of that cool saying! xoxoox

right we need that true love and it does make'
everything much more wonderful. we can try to
make ourselves happy but having a love that
completes us is ever so much better.

What you say is true to an extent, but there are those people who may need medication and the first time illness strikes them, they feel very sad and do not know why! Other people are sad because they are being abused or have been abused! I think the serenity prayer helps people to become happy, as they accept what they cannot change and begin o change what they can!

yes you can choose to be positive and it changes everything
'and you feel happy.

olivemai,
I agree with you on some people who need to be on medication because of health issues making them sad. Depression and metal illness are things that a person can't fix with a change of attitude. Children can not always get out of an abusive home so they can not change the situation to make their lives better but most adults can. Since adults can change that situation I feel that it falls back onto people chooing to be unhappy. But you do bring up a very good point that not everyone can choose to change the situation or change having mental illness.

Yes I had thought of those things too, and they are'beyond
the scope of making yourself happy. those types of things
need a doctors care or a mental health person';s care.

thats the best way to live life to be content with
what we have, that way lies happiness.

we need to think positive and we will be happy

my dad was like that, he thought everyone was out
to get him and his motto get them before they get
you. I always hated that. i was happy because I
tended to trust people and to be happy within myself.

Lori you are so right only we can be responsible for
our own happiness.nobody else can do it for us.

Thank you Hatley so much for Best Response...I really appreciate it..Lori

we ultimately have to make ourselves happy, nobody
else can do that

It sounds like you meditate on it with the help of music! What a way to go!

music is such a great way to make ourselves feel
happy again, it really does work.