Bring me my morning coffee ! ! !
By jdoss23430
@jdoss23430 (379)
United States
June 11, 2008 2:19pm CST
My live-in boyfriend are actually having an argument over who should have to make MY coffee every morning. He makes it for me since he gets up before me most of the time. I personally think that I should be responsible for making it since he doesnt even drink coffee, but he thinks that he should make it for me and even bring it to me before i get out of the bed ! Im not compaining, I actually love it ! What drives me crazy is when he doesnt have a chance to make it or i get up before him, he apologizes to me for not having it ready. Hes been doing this for the 6 years that we have been together. Is this above and beyond the call of duty for him to do this or is it normal?????
1 person likes this
3 responses
@eloouuu (176)
•
11 Jun 08
Normal? I wish it was normal; there's nobody bringing me tea when I wake up! To be fair, this could have something to do with the fact that I rarely wake up before 1 or 2 PM. However, it's extremely generous of him to do that.
It's interesting that you make it sound as though he feels he has an obligation to do this for you, rather than simply because he wants to. I would suggest that this perhaps isn't normal. There could be an innocent explanation; he might see it as his duty to repay you for things you might do for him, cooking or cleaning, he might see it as his "role" within the relationship. Alternatively, there could be an issue he's struggling to overcome. I am sure that there isn't anything to worry about, I wouldn't begin to suggest a deeply-rooted psychological complex, but it might be worth talking to him about.
If all else fails, suggest something that you could do for him to make things fair between the two of you.
@jdoss23430 (379)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Well....In his words...I deserve it for all that I do for him". I dont see as to where I do any more for him than I do for anyone else, so therefor why do I "deserve" it. I dont think that there is an issue going on, I guess I just need to accept it, say thank you, drink my coffee and have get on with my day :-)
@eloouuu (176)
•
12 Jun 08
It sounds like whatever you do or don't do for him, he really appreciates it and this is just his way of repaying you. If you could get him to have a word with my girlfriend and/or parents, that would be great! I did think that it would be unlikely that there would be an issue at hand that needed addressing but it was a possibility. I guess the only thing left for you to do is to enjoy it and I am sure that you will.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Jun 08
If its normal for him. for goodness sakes let
this sweet man do his thing for you and just
enjoy. I would have been thrilled to have had
my husband make coffee for me every morning
and bring it to me before I even got up.my hubby
would cook a dinner for me but he never made coffee
for me, ever and he drank a zillion cups a day of
the stuff.lol
@SwtJenlove (1090)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I wish my man would make the coffee. I make it just the way he likes it so i get stuck making it. i have tried to get him to learn how to do it but he just doesnt have that special touch i guess. everything else he blows me out of the water with. i cook something.. he cooks it better.
@jdoss23430 (379)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Hmmm, maybe thats it..he cant cook so he feels that he needs to do his part in the kitchen by making my coffee....lol or it could be that he has tasted my coffee and figures his tastes better..lol
