would you be sad?  

I have to agree with you, it sounds like she is blowing you off. I think it is rude to wait 2 days before the visit to cancel on you. After all, you are scheduling this within your vacation and could have made other plans for something you or a family member also wanted to do but was short on time. See if she takes the first step to invite you after you get your new vacation schedule. If not, I would just forget about it. Let it be.

Oh I can't believe this has happened to you. That was very inconsiderate and just to leave a message and not to talk directly too very rude. I would be so upset especially after travelling all that way to see them. If I had an appointment I would reschedule for something like this most definitely, I take it you will maybe be not so friendly with her after this let down but it may have been an unavoidable appointment. Find out the true explanation of the cancellation first and if it is not reason ebough drop her. Ellie :D

i think no. i will not going to postpone my schedule just to meet in person some one i talked to online though we have been really long time friends online and anyways how did you become friends online. have you know each other in forums. cause most of my friends online are those people i have talked to here on this site and in different sites that i have joined to earn money. mostly we just share tips on how to earn online . and there are many who are just living near my place but still we have not agreed to meet cause i really don't want to meet them cause i know that it is really better that we just remain as friends online and that there is not really any benefit for me if i will going to meet them cause that will not really going to help me to earn more online. and so not unless they can really teach me how to earn more online by meeting up and if they have so many knowledge to share i will surely want to meet them only for that reason and nothing else. i really have not developed good relationship on people i have been talking too online. our relationship is not really that personal we are more about business relationship though i really enjoy this relationship. cause we are able to help each other and we are able to help improve our lives. and so we are really good friends only online. and not of us have initiated to meet each other. and none is really interested any ways, i really understand the way you want to meet your friend online in person i think though some people are really cautious to meet someone they have talked to online and so try to understand that if the person of your chat mate is really avoiding or keep postponing the date or keep giving reason because if it is not really easy to meet some one you have just talked to online.

yeah I guess so.. I think it would be worth it...

I'm sorry for your case. If I'm your friend, I'll try my best to reschedule as it's not easy to meet for both of us. I have one friend visited me this weekend, she's here for business trip. Initially, I plan to spend my weekends on mylotting, but since she's here I choose to accompany her. I think that's more worth.

Even if I can't reschedule it, I'll bring my friend along. She might feel bore or not use to the new situation, but I'll explain to her that it's the best I can do to make this appointment.

Anytime I hear of something like this happening with an online relationship/friendship, it immediately makes me think that the person was lying about something and they don't want you to find out. Like they told you they were a 24 year old blonde college student when really they are a 56 year old male librarian. I hope that isn't the case with your friend, and it's certainly possible that something just really did come up. I don't know why my mind always goes to the negative, but someone who almost goes out of their way to not see you sounds like they are hiding something.

I would be a little bit annoyed, and I think that next time I probably wouldn't bother making plans to visit with them. I'm sorry that she blew you off again.

I am sure you know the answer, surely I would do my best to meet up and of course I would reschedule what I had for the time of "your " visit. I be excited that "you" took the time to come and see me. But the real question is why she does not. Without her response we just dont know, we can only speculate. It sounds like she has some fear that if you meet, that would somehow change the relationship perhaps. Therefore, two options come to mind:

1: Prior to your next visit to her state do some research and find out where she lives and just show up. If you want suggestions as to how to obtain that info send me a message.

2: You could treat her like a familiar charactor from a book you read. When I read a book a picture of the main character comes to mind and they become familiar to me especially in books that have series like those written by say Clive Cussler (ie Dirk Pitt, Ken Austin) of like Tom Clancy's Jack Ryan. In your case, you dont just read about he you get to interact. Like the book characters you will not get to me them personally but you still get to know them. Perhaps she wants to maintain her aninimity
( I know thats not spelled correctly) and enjoys this long distance relationship because you are so far away you are no threat to her.

Certaintly there are other options but it sounds to me like you would desire to continue this relationship. So do so but you may need to lower your expectations a bit. Good luck with this!

thats sad..i would appreciate a friend dropping by to visit and meet me from other state..if that would happen to me then i will just re-schedule whats to come up and if its that really important then i'll just have to be late but move the time just to meet a friend...it costs too much time and effort for them so i value their time to visit me..

It would have to depend on what came up. A family emergancy, car trouble. That being said if you have tried to get together with her for 3 years, yes I would said that something doesn't seem right. You can always ask her to be truthful with you.