Facebook, what is the attraction?

My first Opinion - Facebook is rubbish I do not like it I know both my Kids use it but they are both young and have their Friends on there
Second- my Ex Husband was always in Chat Rooms and talking to Women I recently found out that he was meeting some of them to I did suspect it anyway but ignored it
Now I would say to the Friend- Do not make the same mistake as I did by ignoring it because you are scared of loosing him, Confront him, don't let him play with the mind and turn it around
Just say to him what you are seeing and why is he being so secretive it
Watch his Face very closely while you are confronting him as you will see if he is lying or not
Confront and tell him not to lie to you about it you want the truth
Once it is confirmed give him the Ultimatum
That is what I would say to my Friend I have been there and I suffered badly knowing he was with those Women and coming home the next Day lying to me where he had been, me taking the lies, because if I differed I was just the awful Wife who begrudged him his Social Life, just because I was stupid and boring
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The problem isn't with Facebook, although I am aware that many people go there to meet people, including those who are looking to cheat on their spouses. Having said that it seems clear to me that your friend has't quite reached her limit yet with her husband. Perhaps the only thing you can tell her is that you will be happy to help her make a transition out of what apears to be an emotionally abusive relationship when she is ready and that you are there for her. Just knowing that her friend is there for her should be enough words of comfort for the moment.

That is really tough. I am completely against affairs, so I would encourage her to seek a divorce. She deserves better than that. She could recieve financial help as well as alimony and child support.

In my own opinion, if she chooses to stay, then she's basically saying that he's allowed to treat her this way. I understand that it is difficult to leave with children involved and no income.. trust me these thoughts have crossed my mind too. It's hard to imagine having to leave and support myself and children, but if I were being cheated on or abused in any way, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

I'm also not very understand what's attrating in facebook. Normally i use friendster to meet my friend back who I did not see them for years.

I think may be faceebook is more user friendly and faster compare to other channels to contact with friends.

May be your friend's hubbry just want to keep in touch with his friend and don't want to lose the friends. Some people will feel that friends are very important in their life.

Your friends husband is dishonest. That is why he is accusing her of cheating. Guilt is written all over him. Your friend should find employment so that she can support herself and the children. Unless the two can go to counseling together, I think the relationship should end. He should be man enough to leave her and their children the house so that the children can maintain some stability. Depending on the state your friend lives in, she most likely would be eligible to receive child and spousal support. This along with her finding employment would help the family financially. It will be hard at first, but she can make it.

short sweet and to the point.. hes being a lying sneaking bastid.. why should she leave..? kick him out, keep the house, and make him pay for supporting the family since she has done nothing wrong here. ..;nods;..

Tell her to get on Facebook and create a secret profile, lure him in and trap him. He sounds like he's looking for a reason to leave, why is she waiting, does she like to prolong heartache? My first wife asked me, "Are you having and affair?", I answered, "No, but you are." I would tell her to gather her stuff over the next few months and instead of just sitting there letting it happen, to make something happen for herself. This isn't some play she in, this is real and she better wise up and accept the fact of what he's doing and leave him. He's too chicken to do it himself.

it is quite surprising she stayed after the first mishap but that if she is feeling that things are not going well between her and her hubby then they either need to go to counseling or they need to separate.

It sucks but that is what I would say

The answer is that I just dont know,he must be a real b***** to do it first of all,but there heads get turned a bit to quickly if you ask me.The whole facebook thingy is weird to me,I mean you put your details on and a picture if ure brave enough and then you start adding your mates,or looking the old mates up,but its a bit like a friends reunited scheme,once youve got the mates there,what you sposed to do with them then,most of us lose contact after a few years anyway,but for a bloke or a woman to do that is pretty grim and pretty selfish to.But if thats how they wanna behave well all the very best to them,just dont let them come crying back in the end.

First of all facebook is not the problem. I am a member of face book. It is great for keeping in touch with relatives and freinds plus connecting with old friends and relatives you would never connect with otherwise. Saying that I have to tell you facebook is the most annoying site to be a part of if you join up for all the ad ons which I don't do.
About your friend. I was in this position once myself. I had way to much respect for myself to stick around and wait for him to torture me with his mind games, affairs and what ever else. Nope I gave him the boot and took charge of my life and my childrens lives. It was the best thing I ever did. I am married now to a man that not only loves me but respects me and our marriage. There are good men out there you don't have to settle for less then that.