I stopped dancing and got fat!

I did I would be one of the first ones in the club and one of the last ones out at least 2 nights a week, and I danced nearly the whole time I was there. Plus dancing around the house everyday. As for the work out videos ... yeah I tried one and I have no idea what that lady was on but that was not dancing. I have recently started trying to learn belly dancing with show called "shimmy" and it is pretty fun. It still feels very different than real dancing. You know when you've been on the floor so long and danced so hard parts of your body hurts that you had forgotten you had but you don't care because you are having too much fun. That was me. I really miss it. I would hit hip hop clubs, salsa, there was an eighties club that was a lot of fun too. If there was music I was there and moving. I don't know if I did it all very well but I gave it 110%.

I was eating less then but have been eating only what is on my food pyramid. I looked it up when I decided that it was time to get up and do something about my weight.

My hubby needs no help with keeping in shape. He hits the weights religiously and is always on his bike. I ride with him but do not get the same results. I think you are right that it did help a lot with stress. I am one of those people who's mood can be greatly be affected by music ( there are a few songs the hubby keeps on cd in our room), and when I was upset I did just dance my butt off till I either felt better or was too tired ti care anymore.
I have to admit to being a bit of a flake too when it comes to "traditional" exercise I get bored and end up losing interest.
Like I'll do a 20 mile bike ride on a pretty wooded trail but riding around the neighborhood I'm ready to go home after 4 miles.

I try to go swimming as often as I can but there is a 4 year old attached to me the whole time so I don't get as much exercise as I could. Though she does make a really cute little water weight. Lift and tickle is her favorite exerise.

O.k. I'm totally jealous, I get stressed and gain weight. Even if I don't eat extra for some reason the weight sticks. Every one in my family (on Moms side)have some serious weight issues too. As for the hubby and dancing... I've learned to enjoy dancing alone. It's much more fun than the broken toes. LOL.
I told everyone last night that from now one when I'm cleaning I'm turning on my music and all t.v.s are off. If they don't like my music go outside to play.

good for you, you found something to do and still can dance at the same time.

Keep it up, a dance video is good too.

First off you did not screw up. My mom has had to fight with her weight all of her life at one point she weighed 408 lbs. And much like you as soon as she had started to make real head way her knees went and now she's trying to lose enough weight to be able to handle the surgery she needs for a huge hernia, but she can't walk across a room let alone work out. She comes to my house so she can go swimming. We help her in and out but other than that she's good. the water keeps the pressure off her knees and hernia. She says it feels great and she has lost 15 lbs just doing this for 3 days every two weeks and eating better. I send her $ for fresh food (the cheap stuff will kill you). You'll be o.k. as soon as you realize that you are worth fighting for.
P.S. your partner never deserved you if they bailed at the first sign of trouble, and love will find you as soon as you are open to it again. Just give it time.

How lovely you are to be so kind. I actually feel as though the "penny has dropped" and I'm in the right place now. I lost 2.5kg last week. I've been ill with a cold this week and not able to do much so I will be interested to see if I've still lost when I weigh myself on Monday.

As for love...I don't know how to accept it into my life now that I'm not the person I used to be. I can't handle that relationships must be about the physical/sexual side of things. For me, intimacy would be to have someone to wash my back, cut my toenails and moisturise my poor dried out skin. I don't think I will find true love anytime soon. But that's ok. I have my animals and they love me...?

Freedom, thank you for best response, I really appreciate it.

You so deserved it.

P.S. If you do find a man that does toe nails, back washing, and lotion...find out if he has a brother around my age (31 but don't tell). Girl all he would need to add would be windows and dishes and you've got the perfect man! I've been married 17 years and the only time my hubby ever does any of that is if he wants something or broke something.

Thanks for yet another reminder why I am happier by myself.... xx