Husbands

Well let's see.. I've been married 5 years, with him for 7... and I still don't have much romance, lol.

I think a lot of it boils down to communication and knowing when to give each other space. You need to say what you're truly feeling. If you're upset, you have to say why and not just pick at stupid things to yell at him for just to vent your anger. Having a baby is stressful, and sometimes while you may just be stressed at the baby or life in general, it's easy to take it out on him. This is a good time to give yourself space from him until you calm down. Sometimes he may just need some space too, or some alone time to do some of the things he enjoyed to do before the baby came along.

Try to get a friend or family member to watch the baby so you two can have a date night and discuss some of the problems you've been having. And read some relationship books. The Dr. Phil Family Matters book really helped me.

to say the truth it is difficult, becos it has to start in the mind and after 4-5 years of mariage the mind does not function as it was in the beginning becos there is no burnign desire to achieve anything,

then how can you solve the situation?

divine intervention is one option

on the human level, each of you try to understand yourself, understand you body, the mind through simple ways liek we teach children to talk and realise its not all play after 4-5 years of marriage,

to keep the love intact, its trying to understand each aspect of your existence and be patient