adult children

You are not expected to drop everything and run to her little whims and beck and calls. Do not feel bad and remember don't get frustrated about it. It is not going to get your anywhere but in a tissy fit. She lost her car herself and you have nothing to feel bad about. She did that on her own.

I thought that when my kids got grown they would take care of themselves and that would be that! However it did not work out that way, for the most part my kids do take care of themselves but last year my oldest daughters car tore up and she drove mine (that i am still making payments on) until it started having a rod knock then she gave it back she had drove my car for over 10,000miles and didn't even have the oil changed! So now i am making payments and having to carry full coverage insurance on a car that is sitting in the yard because i don't have 1200.00 dollars to have the motor changed,so the answer is YES i am frustrated with one of my adult children!

Hi,

I have a 25 year old son that until about a month ago lived with my husband and me. When he wrecked his car and it was totaled, he started using my car. I don't work so i guess he figured I didn't need it. I didn't mind when he drove it to work but he likes going to dirt track races and he always wanted to drive it out of town on the weekends. He finally got his own car but this went on for months. I'm sure it was much easier to use Mom's car than trying to buy his own again. At least he did replace the gas he used.:-)

Have a great day!

Char
:-)

She won't stop asking you to give her rides, until:

1) you find another job. encountering each other is inevitable, especially, if you both work at the same place.
2) move to a different area. Kids can not ask their parents rides, if they live in a different area thats like 5 hours away or even a different state.

If you don't want your daughter mooching off of you for free car rides/carpool, give her an estimate that she will have to pay you upfront. Or if you don't feel like giving her rides anymore, she will have to ask other friends and relatives to give her rides and pay them. Or have her a place an ad on craigslist so she can hire herself a chauffeur.

My sister is in her mid 20s and she still lives at home with our parents. She doesn't work and doesn't contribute to the household chores and to society. She isn't married or have kids. She hasn't worked a day in her adult life. She is a bitter and cold hearted person, who only thinks about herself. I try to establish a relationship with her and try to get along with her but it is challenging because of her behavior. She doesn't make any efforts on her part. My son hardly knows his aunt and his other aunt who is a workaholic and doesn't keep in touch with family.
My mom refuses to kick my sister out of the house. I asked my mom why and she says that she is not that mean. Hence, my mom suffered from empty nest syndrome when I first left home and then again, when both of my sisters left for college. Therefore, I feel that she really doesn't mind if my sister lives at home and depends on her and my dad.

yes sometimes i do as after cmg from my work after a long 3 hr s daily drive if my elder son agures or cry on some useless topics i do get frustrated.but tel me one thing child has no one else to complain or to talk to about their problems except to their parents so we have to cooperate with them we should be a gud listners and districtive enough to solve their problems

Well my question is dont you remeber how it was when you were out on your own? It would not hurt you to let her use your car. If you got things you need to do then you and your husband go out and do it. Just remeber one day you will not have a car and need someone to take you places and I hope your daughter dont do it. I mean since you refuse to allow your daughter to use your car.

My son is only 17, but he is a headache to, he is always asking me for money, I told him I am trying to saving up money, for our family to go to Chicago.
He seems to don't care, I told him he needs to get himself a job.
He is not looking for a job, I even told him one time, what if I die, how are you going to take care of yourself. I told him don't depend on my family, to help you because they won't.

I still don't have my own child. I can understand you feeling. I see from others, even they child is grown up, but they still think parents should always give what they want. If they can't get from parent, they will complain or querell with their parents, they think their parents should be give them, that parents responbility. Not only they ask for something from their parents, their child grandson still ask for things to grandma and grandpa. I don't know why people have child, it's really troublesome, but I still want my own child.

Your daughter is acting like a baby and you're not doing either one of you a favor by allowing her to have temper tantrums. I've had to reel two of my three grown children back in a time or two and, yes, it's hard and upsetting but you have to have standards when it comes to how you allow yourself to be treated by anyone. Is it your fault your daughter lost her car? No, so stop letting her take out her frustrations on you. I know it's going to be hard but you really should lay down the law to her. If you're available to take her someplace you will but you're also allowed to have your own life, just as she does. Let her know that getting angry and hanging up on you is going to get her nowhere and that you're only going to discuss this once. After that, if she gets angry and hangs up on you don't answer the phone the next time she calls. She'll get the message and maybe clean up her act. Hang in there. Eventually she'll get another set of wheels and life will return to normal.