Are you proud of your grown up children?
By CoffeeAnyone
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
Canada
July 11, 2008 8:26pm CST
I can almost hear a resounding yes as you answer this question. I on the other hand have been discussing this with some friends and still have to ask the question; Are you proud of your adult children? This question does seem ridiculous I know! I mean of course we are proud of our child who is all grown up. If your child grew up to be of like mind as you as far as morals and integrity goes then it would be easy to be proud of them but what if they didn't? Your an honest person with a high sense of integrity to treat people right and to not lie or manipulate to get what you want. What if your child does the opposite of those things you value as being of good character. I mean not a bad person but just someone who exaggerates the truths and lies and manipulates to get what they want. Would you still be proud of your grown up child and how would you deal with it?
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
12 Jul 08
CoffeeAnyone I am very proud of my Grown boys and their wonderful families, I am not always proud of the choices and decisions they make. Now that they are married it is not in my control how they live their lives, but I do not hesitate to tell them how I feel, but ultimately it is their lives to either fall down upon, or run with and mature.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
12 Jul 08
Yes we were talking about this exact thing to. You can be proud of them but not be happy with all their choices. Another way we were thinking was if we are not proud of their characteristics can we be proud of anything they do. I was thinking yes you still can because you can still be proud they haven't screwed up everything in their life. Does that make sense? Some people are great with jobs and just the tasks of life but not on their personal growth. I mean it is nice if we can all say we are proud of our kids but we all can't. Some parents are so grieved in their hearts over how their kids turned out. For some people it is more important to rate their success on personal integrity rather then materialism or career choices. I thought it would be neat to see what myLotter's had to say on this subject.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
13 Jul 08
I am extremely proud of our grown children. We have three daughters and they are happy, healthy and have good careers. As they were growing up I always told them I expected two things from them: to be happy and to be educated. Our girls were never in any trouble and have been model citizens. All the time, energy and love it took to raise them was so worth it in the longrun. We do have one single daughter who makes horrible choices in men. This has been our only disappointment but she's happy. And we all know if the kids are happy, we are happy..lol Good discussion.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
31 Oct 10
If the kids are happy we are happy, how true of a statement is that? Oh so true!
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
12 Jul 08
I don't have children, but my usband has lots of chilren. There's a bit of an age gap between us, so the children are all older than I am. LOL It's pretty funny. We're proud of them all because they're all successful in their ow lives.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
12 Jul 08
Can children be successful in life and still not be the kind of person you hoped they would be them to be. These are all the things that came up in discussion.
