For those who have lost a loved one.

hi,
ok i hate talking about this but here goes,my aunt was pregnant with twins,i was the first to see them on the monitor,hell i even knew before the dad did!lol,anyway when she went into labour one of the babies heart beat dissapeared from the monitor,i got a phone call,one of my cousins had just died!
My aunt was devestated and so was the hole family i felt numb with grief we had already been through so much,she stayed in hospital and i stayed there with her and the other twin.The hardest was watching her gazing down at her baby and seeing the pain in her face because there should have been two...i could tell you a lot about all the grief and pain we both felt and that we all felt.But what hurt even more were the stupid comments some people said like "why are you crying you never knew him!" or "at least she'll have less work to do" how can people be so uncaring to say things like that?if they don't know what to say they should not say anything,so they're you go that was my experience along with many others but i would have to write a book to tell all of them to you!
I'm so sorry of you're loss,hold on in there what you're feeling is normal...the pain eases with time...

Call your local hospital and find out if they have any grief support groups
and if you can find one, go to a least one of them. Their is a site on the net, Beyond Indigo, many true stories are there and tips on handling the days ahead.
My whole story is there about my daughters death. But, 6 years later, it's still
like yesterday... she was 15 and my only child. But, she is still with me. She's
almost my mind at times, shes my ears when I play certain songs and shes every tear
I cry and every laugh that slips off my tongue. At times I think that when she left, she took over me... Yes, I become more like her as days go by...

Time will help you! My thoughts are with you.

I'm still praying for you.: )

Hello my friend. My prayers are still with you during this time. The only one I can relate to is of course my mother. Her passing was also a relief to me in more ways than one. While her illness was dragged out as long, she was in pain those last two weeks of her life. She was in a medicated coma on life support and even so I could tell she was in pain. I was there in the hospital the day she "crashed" after two weeks of being in that coma and no real chance of ever coming out of it. I was at the point of requesting that she be pulled off the life support since there was no real hope, but she kind of made that decision for me. Remember the story I told you long time ago? I was alone with her that last day...I asked her over and over again "Do you want to go?" And even though she was in a coma, she must have heard me, for about an hour later, is when she crashed..I think the doctors and nurses had expected me to fall apart, but I didn't...as I said it was actually a relief when she died

I want to give you heart. I remember one day ten over ten years ago watching news and listening to some tit bit about a presidential guard man who had been shot at a barracks. Little did I know that the victim would be my brother in-law whose wife was my immediate follower. I was called next morning at 5.00 am to in break news to my sister, she was only 24 expecting her second baby. Going was easy, but when I arrived it she was all happy, God, my heart almost burst, for I knew I was the bearer of death and gloom. She was young, her life had just begun, how could life be so cruel. The saddest thing I ever did was to break that news! I can still feel it today. My sister was so stunned it affected the unborn child. Yet in all these, God has been great. She has peace that I cant fathom. She is a pillar for many widows. I see steel in her. So my friend, beyond the door, your husband waits. We are troubled and worried, but God has a plan that He alone knows better. PEACE!!!

I am so very sorry for your loss. Words many of us say, but I do mean them. What you have gone thru is very hard I know. I spent two years caring for my mom with her fight with cancer. It will be one year July 29th that I lost her. I sat at her side and held her as she passed. She was my best friend as well as my mom.

It has been a very tough year for me, and for my step dad. We've done various things to help us get thru it. When her birthday came we all went out to dinner in her honor. Christmas was very hard, but we muddled thru. I've shed alot of tears and I've dealt with alot of anger that she had to be taken this way.

But, I know my mom. And I know she wouldn't want me to be angry, nor would she want me to be miserable. So what I have done when it gets really bad is to think of good times. My mom had a wacky sense of humor. She was always dressing up in some crazy costume or riding in a parade, or just entertaining kids at school. She was my girl scout leader, she was my role model. When we learned she had cancer she said she wanted to die with humor and dignity. She managed both. I try and remember how well she kept up her spirits while dealing with such horrible pain. She did her best to deal with everything dealt with her and still worried more over her family than of herself.

I'm sorry this was so long.. but I encourage you to think of the good times, the funny times and know that it does get easier. Never better, because they are gone, but easier. Blessings....

I am sorry for your loss but glad that your husband is no longer in pain.
I almost lost my daughter a few years ago to non-stop seizures. I am so very lucky that she made it but I did think she was dying right in front of me and that was so very hard to deal with.
It was real but felt very unreal and I just got through it somehow.
I have not lost a parent or spouse yet and I consider myself blessed. I had a hard time with both of my grandmothers. When my last grandmother died I was really sad. I had a hard time dealing with that. I am not sure if it was because she was my last surviving grandparent. I never did breakdown because of my daughter. She takes any death so very hard and it would just make everything so much worse if she saw me crying much.

susie my husband died inexpectedly of a second heart attack and I was devastated but then one day I was walkingacross the street and I actaully thought why not just let a car hit me and go be with my husband. then I realized how cruedl that would be to my adult son, so I bucked myself up. but at work what saved me was the advice from a f riend and coworker, take it one day at atime. Ihad told her Idid not knowhow I was going to get over this loss, and she said,just take it one dayat a time,soon you will feel better and better, and you will miss him but you wont hurt anymore. Ihad that numbness too,it comes with grieving for
most of us.

sorry to hear that. I just remembered that when my grandmother has been dead, I couldnt' go home and my right eyes is tearing all day without any reason

My condolence to you. Last week I lost my eldest brother who died of heart problem. He is 69 years old. Earlier, In February this year his wife passed away due to long illness of diabetes. And in August last year his daughter died after a knee operation in hospital. In other words, three in a family died within a year. Now the only person living in his family is his son and 9 grandchildren, 6 from his late daughter and 3 from his living son.