Those that have gone through separation...

As long as there is a chance you'll get back together, then the sadness remains. Although, there are good days and bad days as time goes on. It isn't all sadness and despair. I threw myself into my job as much as I could, working overtime just to keep myself from thinking about. When all chances to reconcile went away and we divorced, that's when the sadness finally left

It's difficult during and after, but eveything happens for a reason, my relationship gave me a 20yr old and a 5yr old, and my boys are my world. Everything else falls into place around them, i have 30% access of my youngster, the older boy has a key to visit whenever he has a chance. Many things are never the same, and in my case it was my decision to leave.....second time we seperated, this time for good. Been rebuilding for the past 3yrs almost, after 23yrs thats a challenge, but single suits me. If you have seperated, go forward now, and enjoy the rest of what lays ahead..

Well, it doesn't. At least not for me. The pain and sadness lessen eventually but never really leaves. My husband left in the fall of 2005 and filed for divorce, which finalized in December of 2006. I was devastated. I hated him, I missed him, I cried for him, I wanted to smack him. I've passed through all that, though. I still miss him a bit and I still cry sometimes over what might have been and things that I see now should have changed, but it's not a constant hurt anymore. If you feel deeply about someone, a separation will always hurt a little. Hopefully, the good memories will eventually overcome most of the pain.

Last July, my marriage ended after 17 years. I was more relieved than hurt because of the situation that caused it. It did hurt for a while but I got over it with help of family,friends and optimism. I am finally happy and have a great guy that wants me for me and my daughter just adores him. If you did separate from someone, just remember that maybe its for the best and that there is someone special out there for you.

It would only stop hurting if you have learned to ACCEPT that it is really over. Then The sadness will surely go away and soon you will find yourself happy in life or better have someone new in your life. When I was going through that stage I just gave myself time to think things over and accept the realities in life.