sign in • sign up
web | myLot | discussions | blogs | news | photos
homeinterestsdiscussionsblogsnewsmessages friendsphotosearningsmyLot

does friendship fade when your friend starts to have a boyfriend email this discussion to a friend?

jeremae (10)   ranked 5 out of 74 in being a good friend3 months ago

time spent with your friend who now has a boyfriend definitely becomes lesser and lesser. this is especially true when it is your friend's first time to have a boyfriend and/or the boyfriend takes much of your friend's time and attention in the relationship. situation is worse when you hate your friend's boyfriend. i guess friendship does only continue in situations wherein you three are in the same circle of friends, sharing the same interests and going out as a group with common likes and dislikes.

 
 
being a good friend
sponsors
Free Shipping: Eco-Friendly Simple Shoes
Come check out the eco-friendly lines Simple Green Toe and Eco Sneaks.
www.birkenstocksd.com

Eco-Friendly Shopping
Browse Catalogs from Leading Green Companies& Get Coupons.
www.catalogs.com

Spao Apothekaria Eco Friendly Products
Restoring the lost art of natural perfumery. Purveyors of vegan perfumes& body care. Featured in Veg News, Nikki Style magazines. Samples now available. Secure online store.
spao-body.com

rsa101 (4082) response was accepted on 7/23/2008.
denotes best response.
tags:  friend, friends, friendship, jealousy, when friendship fades
 
1. myLot reputation of 87/100. reckon21 (1332)   3 months ago

Hello jeremae...welcome to my lot.
When my best friend had a girlfriend
things change a little. We no longer go out
frequently. We have less time talking with
each other. He spent more time with her than
in my company. But still we are close
as brother. That's normal. One good thing is that
his girlfriend is my cousin. So no problem at all.


jeremae (10)   ranked 5 out of 74 in being a good friend  3 months ago

thanks, reckon21. i am very new to mylot and you are the very first person who gave me a response. thank you.

Free Shipping: Eco-Friendly Simple Shoes Come check out the eco-friendly lines Simple Green Toe and Eco Sneaks. www.birkenstocksd.com
 
2. myLot reputation of 99/100. brisk123 (770)   ranked 3 out of 74 in being a good friend   3 months ago

hey jeremae don't be upset.This happens,maybe someday even you will start going out with your someone special then you won't have time to stop and think about this. I know how you feel since I too felt the same when my close friend starts going out with her boyfriend,less calls, less talks and less going outs with her because she needs time of her own.She was happy so I am happy for her too.Things can always never be same but I know your friend still cares for you and she still needs you.So cheer up my friend!

Eco-Friendly Shopping Browse Catalogs from Leading Green Companies & Get Coupons. www.catalogs.com
 
3. myLot reputation of 95/100. mummybec (259)   3 months ago

No I dont think that they change... well not much anyway - unless I suppose if you let it change. I suppose it also depends on how close friends you already were. As I have friends that I have been friends with since school most of us are now married with Kids but catch up when we can, we can all go ages without seeing each other yet when we do see each other again it is like we have just seen each other yesterday. (and it could have been months!!)

Spao Apothekaria Eco Friendly Products Restoring the lost art of natural perfumery. Purveyors of vegan perfumes & body care. Featured in Veg News, Nikki Style magazines. Samples now available. Secure online store. spao-body.com
 
4. myLot reputation of 85/100. rsa101 (4082)   3 months ago

Well it does happen especially the first few months they are in love with each other. That is usually the tendency that each experiences. Well I guess being a good friend to your friend you must allow her to enjoy what she get from it. I think she deserves to be happy with someone she thinks she is. Just stay to be a good friend to her and if in any time she realized that she has made a mistake be there for her to let her feel that she is not alone. I think that is the real essence of friendship.

Are You A True Friend? Find Out If You Are A Fair-Weather Friend In This Fun, Free Quiz. www.LifeScript.com
 
5. honey15rose (78)   3 months ago

When a friend gets into a relationship, there will be some changes with your friendship with her. But that doesn't mean it will just fade automatically. I think it will depend on the foundation of your friendship with her. Who knows, maybe she will need you most now, especially when she gets into trouble with her boyfriend, she might need your advice, she will need your help.

 
6. welshteddy2k5 (85)   3 months ago

It can do if you let it but it shouldnt even when you have a partner you should always make time for your friends, try to plan a few nights/days together where its just you and your friends and a few nights with your partner that way you get the best of both worlds

 
sponsors
Are You A True Friend?
Find Out If You Are A Fair-Weather Friend In This Fun, Free Quiz.
www.LifeScript.com

similar discussions
I feel betrayed by my best friend....how should I handle this?
I have been by my best friends side through thick and thin. She just recently had her first child....
How to say goodbye to your best friend?
My best friend is leaving for good, she will stay in philippine with her daughter, so in this time...
people you went to school with
I was at the grocery store the other day and ran into someone I went to school with. I was never...
Rest In Peace, My Little Friend
My hamster Whitey has passed away. Last night he was frolicking in his cage and I pet him. This...
Homeless: All Connections Severed
For several months I’ve been writing about a homeless couple that I met in the course of one of my...
Are they secrets to make new friends?
I have a few close friends, but not too many, and i wanna make more, but i do not know how to make...
Have You Ever Had A Very Close Friend (Or Another Loved One)
find out that they may be facing a very serious illness?I've just found out on Friday, that a...
sponsors
Are You A True Friend?
Find Out If You Are A Fair-Weather Friend In This Fun, Free Quiz.
www.LifeScript.com