Would you leave your job to focus on your kids?

When I became a parent, I became a changed man. I lived for my children and wife and all that I did was for them. I still live for them and I am doing all that I can to be a good father and provider to them. My own personal life is nothing because I am a parent and it is something that I want to do well.

I have given up a career to stay home with my kids. It definitely shows in their performance at school. So, I would definitely give up my job in favor for my son, if I would be in your shoes. But that decision is not always easy to make if financial worries come up. You son will most likely benefit from the additional time you can spend with him expecially since you have a background in teaching. Obviously he needs more one on one instruction to supplement what he learned in school. The teacher may be right, he may respond better to you than a tutor. You should not take him out of school to get this done, so you still have some time you can use to work. Maybe you should switch to substitute teaching for a while? That way you can augment your husband's income but also take time with your son, if needed.

I don't think that is fair for her to lay that at your doorstep that way. A lot of parents work and their kids are just fine. If you are in a position, and want to stay at home, then by all means do so, but don't feel pressured to. Some women aren't happy staying home and look at their job as a benefit not only in income but they get out of the house every day and have adult conversations. They end up hating being home all of the time. Don't feel guilty if you keep your job. As long as you are there for your son when you ARE home, that is what is important. Quality not quantity. I've seen childen with SAHMs that have a lot of issues because they don't do anything with them. They're home all day, but choose not not do anything with them because they see it as "the teacher's job". Do what is best for you and your family. Maybe start with cutting back to part time, or subbing, if you want, but I wouldn't give up my job, and make that kind of change, unless you are sure that is what you want to do. Don't let someone "guilt" you into it.

Since you have the background in education, you should be able to help your son with the skills that he hasn't mastered. I did leave my teaching job for my children, but they were babies.When I had a horrible time finding daycare for my son~ I went threw 7 of them before he came home and started swearing at the age of 2! I was horrified, so decided to stop teaching and to stay home and raise my children. We also needed the income, so I decided to open a home daycare here. This way I was implimenting early childhood education into my daycare and staying home with my children too.

I have been in your shoes before, I was a single parent with my firstborn son and I wanted to work to give him a better standard of life than he was getting with me not working. I had so many problems with his behaviour and everything. On the weekends that I had to work, I would be working 12 hour shifts from 8am in the morning until 8pm in the evening and so I would hardly see him at the weekend. When I used to leave him with the childminder he would hang on to my leg begging me not to leave him and it broke my heart. He would steal, lie and he just was a nightmare and of course I was never there for him. I knew that I had to take a decision, I had to leave work because he needed me. So, I did and I claimed benefits again and we had no money, but he did not care, because he had me. Then I met my now hubby and when we decided to have children together he did not want me to go back to work and he promised that he would work and that I would never have to worry about money, and he has been as good as his word. I have not worked now for 9 years and I miss it, I miss the friendship, the fun etc all that comes with work. But, my kids always have me when they need me and my eldest who is now 16 has turned out OK, a pest but a pretty good pest !!

That sound like a good option given the situation. I wish I could work less so I could spend more time with my daughter but I am a single mom and that is not an option for me.

I've done both....when my first son was born...I quit working and didn't go back to work till he was 5(in another field). I now have a 20 month old and I started working 2 months back. Though my older one is not really affected (in the academics) and my younger one enjoys going to school, I do find changes that I am not very happy with. My younger one's rountine goes for a toss because he has to stay an extra 2 hours with me at school. I'm seriously thinking of staying home for another year or two...but I can't quit in the middle of the school year.

I have a double job right now both full time and I have 5 kids. I regret not being there for my kids for their school and all but the thing is I need to be practical in life. With whats happening to the economy right now I need all the extra cash for our needs. My husband don't work so I am the one who's doing the working for my family. I pay for everythin..whatever bills a household gets you name it I pay for it. I really love my kids and would want to be there. I just make sure before I go out of the house I have asked them hows school, hugged and kissed them and tell them how much I miss them. I have the weekends off so I have that time for all of them. I have my oldest in 1st yr. college, one in 1st yr. Highschool, 2 in grade school and one in kinder. Really difficult but I try my best to be there for them. I explain to them the situation I am in so they would understand why I am not there for them always. I believe you can get a tutor for your child or if you want you can teach him on your days off from work or give him a few times after your work hours to help him with his work at school. I wouldn't leave my job to focus on my kids if I had so much money to spend I would but I also want to care for their needs and if I stop working they will have nothing. You can still be there for him even if you are working you just have to give a few minutes of your time like what I do.

This is so ideal. I'd like to this in the near future and just have a home based business. However, in your case of having a son with ADHD, I think you should follow your gut feel as a mom. You are right, why not accept tutorials too. You allot a time for your son and allot some hours for tutorials. Here in the Philippines, tutorials are still popular and tutors are paid quite high by the hour. That would surely help your husband. You can also do some blogging to earn extra cash. Whatever your decision may be, I hope it works out for you and your family.

I your family's finances will be handled by your husband, I mean, if the earnings of your husband is enough to support all your household expenses and it is alright for him to work alone, then it is better to really focus on the needs of your son. This happened to me two years ago. I was to decide between taking care of our only daughter or going back to work after giving birth. My husband and I decided that I just take care of my daughter. She is now two years old and already in school.

Really a tough optianal problem. As a man, maybe I cannot get the same feeling as in your shoes so I just give my own opinion. on one hand, you should know if you quit you job, does what your husbard earns can support the whole family?? if cannot, then of course you shouldn't quit. and on the other hand, you should think about yourself whether you will be happy when you give up your job and stay at home all day long.if not,then you shouldn't give up.

Now,I'm not,however, when I have a child, maybe I will do this thing! However, I hope I could keep working! If the lady have no work only at home ,you will be easily dropped by the society which is so dangerous!

Hello i like your topic .I just lost my job a month ago because i could not concentrate at work.My daughter is 1 year and 11 months she is use to sleeping beside me when i was working at night ,as what my baby sitter told me she always cries and by hearing it ,i was so worried because i know the reason behind it.I need to work because of the bills my husband although he earned a lot still there are some obligations that must be meet.that's why i am helping him but when it comes with our child i sacrifice my job i let the company fire me because if i quit that time i need to pay some amount because of the contract.But still i tried to balance everything but i end up losing the battle.But after all those things i am happy because i am finally where i should be with my daughter guiding her.She is now happy and i am here looking for other ways to help my husband that's why i joined a lot of sites

hmmmm!If that is the situation,it is really hard for you to manage your time. If I were you you must priority your child.Try to accept tutorials so that you can also earn additional income to help your husband.It is your choice!

Wow I can't believe a teacher told you that a tutor wouldn't work for him and it would be you only to make him do better in school. I think if you can do it you should b/c your child is the future and you should anything you can to make him successful. Sorry that means putting a hold on your career. I gave up a really good and fun job to stay home with my kids. I do miss it sometimes but I know my kids wouldn't be where they are if it wouldn't be for me. Good luck I hope you have an easy time making a choice of what to do.

that is the painful part of being a mom and having a career. my wife is a professional singer and a voice instructor. since she got pregnant she decided to be a stay at home wife/mom. now that our child is 2 years old already she wants to go back to work for she misses it. but dont know if our child will able to adjust. sometimes when moms get back to work they can focus on the work but lost time for their children. as what they say you can not serve two masters at the same time, so you need to choose. if i am in your shoes i think i will think of my child welfare.

If the household income allow, I will leave my job to take care of my kids. The kids need very well education from the parent, it's better to take care the kids a lot.

Well you have to give priority to your son because he needs you. Remember, the primary function of a mother is to look after her children. And you are right, you can anyway accept tutorials at home to augment your husband's income. What is important is you stay home first so that you can really answer to the need of your child.

I'm a work from home mother with 4 kids, and yes it has helped my kids that I was there for them when they come home from school, I quit working when my 2nd oldest son was born, and i have 4, so it was right for me and yes it was a struggle but things worked out and I'm still home because I have my oldest who is attending the art institute and my others are still in middle school, high school and elementary school, my mom wasn't always home and wasn't there when i needed her the most and I vowed not to do that to my kids and it does show in their performance in school and being there for them is very rewarding for me as well. I don't miss the plays and awards they get and helping out when needed for school functions, and I have made some really nice people and lots of friends. so it depends on how it works for you, I wish you much luck with it. Bizmom24

To gave up a job is not an easy decision especially when financial matters is concern. In this moment, try first to talk your child or you may take a leave of absence in order to focus your roll as a mother being a teacher to him. I have a niece with a mild ADHD but as what i know they referred it to a doctor and enrolled him in a special session that teaching the child to act normally. By Gods grace my niece doing so well now and he is now in grade 2. But when during your time in attending him try to observed if you can survive it. Having a ADHD child is not easy may be you have to give up your work anyway it for the good to your family and to your child as well.