what do you think is the best way to discipline a child?
By wendhieRN
@wendhieRN (754)
United States
July 25, 2008 6:00am CST
i just finished watching the news on the television with a certain incident that was reported earlier. a child as young as seven years old was being beaten by none other but her own grandmother. the child stays with her grandparents ever since her mom went to work overseas as a domestic helper. the young girl sustained a lot of bruises and hematoma from trauma. her eyes were swollen and her legs so hurt that she could not help herself move. it was noted that the very reason on why such incident of child abuse took place was when the kid unintentionally committed a simple mistake of buying something from the store that was not asked to be bought. so awful, that young girl will forever remember her painful and abusive experience from the incident. in the long run, it is even possible that this could lead to a more serious behavioral and psychological problem. in your own views, what do you think is the best way to discipline a child without spanking or other things alike? here are some of them..
1. be aware of the child's abilities and limitations. do not assume that the child can do all things you ask to perform. not all children are alike, there are some who really have minimal abilities while others are have extraordinary.
2.think before you talk. all that an adult can say is being interpreted and believed by a child as always right and acceptable.
3. be consistent. children live with so much expectations from adults. promises are just so hard to forget.
4. learn to see mistakes. do not be so perfectionist over your child.
5. pay attention to the child's feelings. it is very necessary that we recognize and acknowledge the feelings of the child as being so sensitive to this will give rise to the child's feelings of security, love and belongingness.
hope these tips work for you!
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4 responses
@marlena18042 (636)
• United States
25 Jul 08
Yes,very great points you have there at the end of your article. I would like to add one of my own that works great for me.-there are times when our children do things that can make us very, very upset, my advice is calm down and take a time out for your self before dealing with the situation if possible. I know from my own experience that when I am upset I dont make all the best decisions. So, I excuse myself, calm down a bit, then deal with the situation on a calmer more rational level. I think if more people learn to do this there would be less cases of abuse in the world.thanx for your article.
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@wendhieRN (754)
• United States
25 Jul 08
you surely are a good mom! cheers to that! if i will be on my family way, i will probably master the same thing.
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@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
25 Jul 08
Spanking is not an ideal discipline for a child.
You are hurting the child physically. That grandmother
deserves some beatings. For all her maturity that she
was supposed to have at her age. She acted like a child.
She deserves to be in jail for what she had done.
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@wendhieRN (754)
• United States
25 Jul 08
according to the news, that grandmother was actually put in jail right after that incident while the child is still recovering in the hospital right now.
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
25 Jul 08
Hey wendhiern, this is a wonderful article you are sharing with us. I dont have kids yet but I would like to add my two cents in this. If a child has done a mistake, sitting down with the kids and talking things out slowly and repeatetively is also better than caining or abusing the child..........also setting curfews or grounding the child is a good way of desciplining them.
Thanks for sharing with us.
@crazy286 (269)
• India
25 Jul 08
This is a real tough question buddy. All children cannot be considered as same to give a generalized answer. Some need just a word and some will be too tough to handle. You need to think and do whatever has to be done depending on the child. that should not hurt him though.
