Do you ever feel as if your life is being run by a committee?

Fortunately Beauty i live alone..own my own business and the children are ll grown so the only committee i answer to is the tax man..lol and they get enough from me i'm thinking of starting a petition and letting them know how i really feel..lmao

My husband and I are a team, but sometimes the exes act like a freaking comittee. We're working on that one. LOL But when it all comes down to it, we are a team, and that's all that really really counts. We are usually on the same page, and when there is a disagreement we can compromise without sacriice on either part. We do extremely well together.

I can understand where you are coming from. Any decission that I would like to make, I always run it by the family. It does feel that my life decissions are not my own but my family's.

Even my future plannings are moulded around my children and their education. My husband has suggested to moving but it is my children's education that holds me back from moving.

I will never let anyone particularly friends tell me how to spend my own money.
If I do not have the money, I talk to my partner about what I would like,
And he either buy's it for me or give me the money to buy it.
We needed new curtains so he gave me the money to buy the fabric.
I make my own.
He never says no to me.
Mind you he would say no, if it was something we did not really need.

My spouse would say "No" that is not how it is, but honestly, if I even think about buying something for me or the house, something goes wrong with the car, if I think about quitting a job, my husband loses his. I do often feel like I am dead last. Hey, guess what. He says he does not even want to know how to access our Pay Pal, he wants that to be my money, and guess what? I have another website where I have gotten a $25 Home Depot gift card, and I am almost to another, and a website where I earn money for being healthy and keeping track of my health, and a website where I am almost to $50 from Lowe's ( I want to make some improvements here). It will get better, really. It will get better for you as well. Keep some of what your earn and set it aside for projects or curtains. Good luck to you.

How much is too much?
But I do but I don't have to. I talk to my spouse about what I want to buy but he doesn't really care. He always tells me, "If you want it, buy it. I don't care what it costs." He really doesn't. I could drop a grand on something and he really wouldn't say a word. Not that I would. I have bought an xbox 360 last year without his knowledge. Of course it was his gift so I couldn't tell him. But as long as I can pay the bills he is fine with things.
He doesn't like making an issue out of money. He is the only one I consult anyway.
The house is mine. I have to look at it so I get to decorate it how I want.

Hmm, well, I think if you do want to do those things, you should let your "committee" know about your needs. If they really cared about you and your well being, they should at least take some of your wishes into consideration.

Also, do your assorted friends contribute to your income? It wouldn't make any sense to allow them to decide for you how you spend your money if they don't contribute. Your family, I suppose I can understand, but friends? The same thing should apply to the kid--are they significantly contributing to your income?

As because we all live in a society we are governed by some rules some of which some are visible and some are invisible. This society has committees in different forms. In our younger age our committee comprises of parents, elder brother/sisters, teachers, neighbors and so on. In our adulthood we had committee comprised of friends, teachers and later on girlfriend spouse children and so on. We are always surrounded by committee and everything we do is being questioned. So friend what we do our life is being run by a committee.
I do not know only after our death we would free from the"committee".

First off, I want to say that I enjoy your discussions. They are not the same old thing so I find myself responding to more and more of them.

Now on to my answer.

Right now, money is probably the only thing that I don't feel like I have to run by everyone. It used to feel that way when my husband is in charge of the finances but not anymore. I feel more like this with time in general. I feel like I want to do so much but I don't because I use all my time doing what everyone else wants to do. Mostly my husband.
I tend to put his interests in front of my own. Not because he won't do what I want because he will...I just feel guilty when I know he wants to do something badly and I say no. He doesn't go out, he only goes to the gym. He trains in MMA and it takes up quite a bit of time in the grand scheme of things. He always wants me and out daughter to go with him which is a huge pain. She is two years old. It is so much easier to keep her home where I can occupy her better but then I run into the issue of the fact that I have already been home alone with her all day long. So sometimes it feels like a lose-lose situation and I get mad. I would never try to stop him from going altogether though. He really loves it and it keeps him in shape. He has made some really good friends there too. I wouldn't take that away from him. I guess just knowing he would give it up if I asked is enough.

Life is a bit like that,
You come across funny things, and i will share this one with you.

NEVER, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.

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