Do you ever feel as if your life is being run by a committee?

Fortunately Beauty i live alone..own my own business and the children are ll grown so the only committee i answer to is the tax man..lol and they get enough from me i'm thinking of starting a petition and letting them know how i really feel..lmao

My husband and I are a team, but sometimes the exes act like a freaking comittee. We're working on that one. LOL But when it all comes down to it, we are a team, and that's all that really really counts. We are usually on the same page, and when there is a disagreement we can compromise without sacriice on either part. We do extremely well together.

There are times and decisions that we have to make that I think we all need to get the approval of family and friends. And then we start wondering if we can make decisions on or own because we get so reliant on the impute of others. Then we go out and splurge and get something without the committees approval and get a response like "Why did you buy that?" and then we fell totally inadequate. If it involves a big dollar amount it seems best to always get approval.

If I want something big then I talk about it with hubby, as it is his money too. Mainly though we both want the same things so it is not too bad. I tend to always get the things that I want because hubby wants them too!

In my house I am the committee, and honestly it gets a bit tiring. You have no idea how often I hear myself say "Why can't you just make your own decisions?" Sometimes I get really tired of being responsible for every tiny decision. But, at the same time, I do feel as if I'm not in control of my life. It's not because I have to ask someone else's opinion on my choices, but more or less because I feel like I was given no choices. I didn't choose to live in this house, and we are unable to move. I didn't choose to be a stay at home mom, but we can't afford child care. I don't choose what time I wake up in the morning, what time I go to bed, or what I do during the day. That's the life of a mom... but sometimes it gets to me.

Hmm, well, I think if you do want to do those things, you should let your "committee" know about your needs. If they really cared about you and your well being, they should at least take some of your wishes into consideration. Also, do your assorted friends contribute to your income? It wouldn't make any sense to allow them to decide for you how you spend your money if they don't contribute. Your family, I suppose I can understand, but friends? The same thing should apply to the kid--are they significantly contributing to your income?

Honestly NO. I make my own money and I can do what I choose with it. I will be the one that stops myself. I always think of how my actions affect other people. So if I took an online course- will I be taking time away from my family? It will better us in the long run. lol-- that sort of thing. I think it's time you made your decisions without the committee! Nothing huge- all big dollar items should be a joint decision. What did you want to take the class in?

When my children where little and before my husband had his stroke I had to run things by my committee. Now I am the head of the committee and I do as I please. I am disabled so we do not have much money it is easier. I know what we can afford and what we cannot. I have to rain in my husband's spending sometimes and that gets hard.

First off, I want to say that I enjoy your discussions. They are not the same old thing so I find myself responding to more and more of them. Now on to my answer. Right now, money is probably the only thing that I don't feel like I have to run by everyone. It used to feel that way when my husband is in charge of the finances but not anymore. I feel more like this with time in general. I feel like I want to do so much but I don't because I use all my time doing what everyone else wants to do. Mostly my husband. I tend to put his interests in front of my own. Not because he won't do what I want because he will...I just feel guilty when I know he wants to do something badly and I say no. He doesn't go out, he only goes to the gym. He trains in MMA and it takes up quite a bit of time in the grand scheme of things. He always wants me and out daughter to go with him which is a huge pain. She is two years old. It is so much easier to keep her home where I can occupy her better but then I run into the issue of the fact that I have already been home alone with her all day long. So sometimes it feels like a lose-lose situation and I get mad. I would never try to stop him from going altogether though. He really loves it and it keeps him in shape. He has made some really good friends there too. I wouldn't take that away from him. I guess just knowing he would give it up if I asked is enough.

well literally yes as you said when you want to study this course a committee evaluates your entrance exam performance and how you did in your high school, etc. But to me i don't get bother to this anymore sometimes annoying but what can we do it is the norm of our society, it is what the society dictates. if you go against it.... you will losse...=/