How do you please people?
By msedge
@msedge (4011)
United States
July 27, 2008 5:14pm CST
No matter how hard you try, no matter how many hours you spend pondering and planning, and regardless of making your hardest efforts, you absolutely cannot please everyone. It is impossible. So do yourself a favor and stop now before you drive yourself further towards insanity. There are many drawbacks to being a people-pleaser. A big one is that you often put yourself in a position of subservience. Sometimes you even put yourself last, which helps no one. Remember that helping yourself and doing what you feel is important should be valued. Find worth in your own opinions and viewpoint, and don't let your desire to please others compel you to keep yourself in the background. Falling short of perfection only proves that you are a normal human being.
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@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
27 Jul 08
You are asolutely right. I have a couple of people pleasers in my amily who need to see this discussion. One of them has internet access, so I will make sure he sees it. I've been telling people this for a long time. I sometimes come of as being selfish and inolerent, ut usually only to people who are extreme pleasers, and do not know how o be anyting else.
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@goddessofbeauty (713)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
I do things not because I want to please other people, I do things because I want to... yes, you're absolutely right, it's hard to please people because there is no such perfect individual... What maybe right or pleasing to you might be wrong or unpleasant to others... Everybody should have thought that as a human being, all of us commit mistakes, and what we can do is just to do something to make it better...
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I appreciate the message that you are delivering here. Believe me, I have come to the conclusion a long time ago that you cannot please everyone. Just please yourself. You can't go wrong there!
Anyway I do put myself into situations where I feel I am trying to be everything to everybody and putting myself last. It is not always an easy way to live.
You are right about valuing yourself. It is one of the most important things you can do.
