I just read a "dear abby" and want your thoughts PLEASE...

Here is the link - The one I want to talk about is the second "question"

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ucda/20080729/lf_ucda/wifewholeftandnevercamebacknowtalksofcominghome

AS QUOTED FROM THE SITE:

DEAR ABBY: My son-in-law, "Tony," is very ill and probably won't make it. It is a terrible tragedy for our family. He will leave behind a bereft wife and children.

During his last crisis I traveled across country to support my daughter, "Janet." My husband, "Doug," isn't Janet's father, and now he says he doesn't want me going to the funeral. He says I have spent enough time on Tony, and my visit was a "waste of money."

He says Janet wanting me there is a ploy -- that she's "playing me." Granted, she had some hard feelings when I divorced her father and married Doug, but we have made up. I feel I need to be at the funeral to support her.

There has been no love lost between Janet and Doug. He does not get along with his own kids from a previous marriage either. But should this interfere with my attending the funeral? Doug says my going would be a betrayal to him and has threatened divorce if I go. How should I handle this? -- TORN IN DES MOINES

Alright so what are your thoughts about the husband "Doug"?? My thoughts are WOW insensitive butthole! What would you do if you were in the womans situation? I didn't quote Abby's response because I want yours - If you want to see it please follow the link. My BIG question is what would you do in this situation???