Married to someone of a different religion
By freedomg
@freedomg (1684)
United States
August 1, 2008 9:46am CST
My hubby and I have been married for 17 years and have been able to stick through some pretty crazy stuff. Including religious difference. I will not state the religions (just that they are both Christian based) as I have seen some people come under attack for their religions here and I don't want to distract from the real question.
What I want to know is if you were to marry someone and then they converted to a different religion than you would you be o.k. with that?
O.k. your turn to post...please play nice.
3 responses
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Wow congrats on the 17 years. It's a hard question you ask, but when I married my husband I thought that he was raised in a Christian home which I have come to find out that they (his family) only went to church a few times. It doesn't matter to me really, he learned a while ago not to debate religion with me since my knowledge is far greater than his in this subject. It maybe hard if he converted to a religion that very different than a Christian based, like one without Christmas and those sorts of holiday. But the children and I would continue to do the holidays and he would just have to live with it since we did do them before the conversion.
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
1 Aug 08
My friend is Christian and her hubby is Jehovah witness so they fight every year over the holidays. The hubby almost always wins. I couldn't give up Christmas it's my favorite time of year. Though you are right it probably would be a lot harder id one was Christian based and the other not.
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I don't know how your friend does it. That would be an extremely hard marriage. I like different religions but I don't think I could be able to be married to someone that doesn't celebrate any holiday.
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@snowy22315 (208932)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I think that as long as your basic values are the same it shouldnt matter as to what form of religion they choose to worship in. I guess I'd be curious as to why they felt the need to convert. Other than that I think a person should be entitled to worship however they choose. I wouldnt be upset about it. You and hubby have already been through alot together, I think you could go through this also.
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Actually I think I worded the original post. I am the one that converted ...sort of. I was a member but during my teen years I left the church then a few months ago my oldest daughter wanted to learn about the different churches out there and I told her I would go with her to check them out. When we attended one from my old religion I was overwhelmed with the feeling like I had just came home and I just started going again. It provides me with a sense of piece and direction that no other church that I have attended has so I know it's where I belong.
We don't fight over church. In fact he loves how I am when I attend but doesn't feel it's the one for him. We respect each other and believe that it is important that everyone be allowed to form their own relationship with God with out interference.
We don't fight over church. In fact he loves how I am when I attend but doesn't feel it's the one for him. We respect each other and believe that it is important that everyone be allowed to form their own relationship with God with out interference.
@ch88ss (2271)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Hmm. 17 years is a long time, Congrats! I have 4 more years to go to reach 17 years. I been married for 13 years now! I am holding my breath for the day that we can see eye to eye on many things, including religion.
I would not mind at all, though I would have a problem later on if the kids are expected to follow both religion.
I have this problem at home too, but just slightly different.
