...be yourself, I'll appreciate it more!...

I ignore them and keep them at a distance. If one points one finger towards the other person, he should always remember that four fingers are pointing at him too.

When I find out someone is like that I will not bother with them anymore. I do not like people like that and will not bother with them. Those are the kind of people who like to make trouble.

Hi checapricorn, I think that when people want to change their lifes and see other doing the same thing, that she was doing, she is finally noticing what she was doing wrong. Now that she not that way, she will be judging everyone who does something wrong. Just like my brother, he used to drink, and I mean drink to get drank and became everyone pain the behind. he stopped drinking, when to AA, well now he tries to tell us not to drink because it's not good. and he'll keep track on how many you have drank. He is judging us because we can handle our drinking, plus we're not driving. So since he doesn't drink he will start talking about everyone else. So now that she not doing all the bad things, she has to talk about the people that are. Just keep your distance and don't talk about yourself to her. You never know she may just turn around and start talking about you.

Better be ourselves rather pretending the kind of person we are not. By being ourselves we gain our freedom and peace of mind. No need to pretend here. This is just an online community. And we should all be friends here.

Carefully. I handle them very carefully. But if they persist in bringing negativity into my life, then they are gone. I don't have time for drama and I prefer to make up my own mind about people, based on MY experience with them. As long as they treat me with kindness and respect then I will bend over backwards for them. But if I find myself cringing whenever I see them, or talk to them, I know it's time to move on and leave them behind. Life is waaaaaaaay to short and unpredictable to wallow in someone's elses need to put other's down.

Oh dear its all so sill isnt it!life is far too short for all of that nonsense,and just take no notice of it Che and just enjoy your mylotting ,there are amny people here from different parts of the world,and I dont really `know` any of them!I just post away to my hearts content,and thats fine by me,but dont let anyone spoil your days here.

Its hard to find a really good friend...I have a friend,i would not say a true friend but a friend i have known many years..She is always mad at someone,she finds fault with everyone and cannot keep a friend...She will not leave any openings for anyones mistakes.. There is many like that,they see others faults but over looks hers....She has gotten mad at me many times ,and i never knew why..One time she got mad at me because i forgave my husband after an argument...This last time she got mad at my husband because he ask her to move her truck that she had parked in our yard for a whole year,and shes mad at me because he said it...I never opened my mouth...People are weird sometimes...I hate people to always talk about others,i feel like if i turn my back they will talk about me...I do have one friend that i feel is a true friend,she does not gossip about others,she has lots of interests,and when i confide in her about something ,she keeps it between us..These kinds of friends are hard to find....She will stay with you when you are sick,shes there when your sad...If you break down on the road she will come get you,thats what i call a friend.....They are hard to find...

we'll it's really hard to find somebody true and sincere nowadays. people fake themselves, but why, we do not know. i belive we should try not to trust too easily and learn to know the person better before trusting anything to that person. we shoud be careful in choosing our friends too, because being with the wrong people can get us into trouble. and we should remembr that our frinds would relflect the kind of person that we are. If you think that they new so called friend that you have is somebody who can't be trusted then detach yourself from her.

Hi dear if u wil honestly ask me, i am not agreeing with what u did to THAT GIRL. i am neither concern whats is my friend past or whats his/her behavior to others as long as one is sincere with me, thats what matter If that girl was sincere to U, and never get undue advantage of u, and whatever she told u is correct( u may know it now) then i am sure this Message will be HURTING her a lot, How she can be BEFRIENS to any one. I am sorry dear u if u dont like my post, but some how it make me sad Bye

hi checapricorn whenever I have met someone like that I just moved on as they are so depressing and I did not need more depression in my life. I like to have friends who are up beat and cheerful and postive. I dont care about pasts if they stay past but if my friend is judgmental, then I just move on, as she is not my friend, I am not judgmental and dont like others to be either.

To thine ownself be true. I agree with you on this, and I feel that as long as you first love yourself you can also love others. I try not judge people, but alas, judging is only human. There is a song that I like and it goes a little something like this : Now don't judge me and I won't judge you Cause we all get judged in the end Some people care about what other people think Worry about what they say Let a little gossip Coming from a loose lip ruin a perfect day I was once untrue to myself and felt that I needed to change to fit in, as soon as I realized it was stupid (with the help of my fiance) and I changed back, my friend's suddenly showed their true colors. I hope that you don't lose the friendship with this person but if you do, just think this, your better off without her. If she tries to find flaws in other's she's only denying that she too is flawed. We are all flawed, but that is okay. Well, I appreciate this discussion and I hope that you have a very wonderfully lovely day. If you don't mind me asking, where are you originally from?

Unfortunately there are people that point out all the bad thing in another's past to keep you from looking into theirs. People that are insistent on telling me all about other people's bad traits and never saying anything good are not friends. I be sure I never tell them anything I don't want the whole world to know, and I associate with them as little as possible.

Hi Che, People who tend to judge and criticise others, are the ones to be cautious around. I suggest you listen and observe before you allow yourself to be pulled into this kind of relationship. Make sure you give everyone a chance before allowing someone else to make up your mind for you. Listen to them and then listen to your innerself. You'll make good choices if you do. leenie

i had a friend like this. notice i said had. she did the exact same thing. but, i never "called" her on it. and, i am glad you did ! i just allowed our paths to become wider and wider. i always think of that old saying look at the pot calling the kettle black. she has no right to cast stones. everyone needs to make up their own mind about people. knowing their past history is just that: past history.

its true.sometimes these unsolicited advices are just nothing. it makes life hell. so its true if we stay on our help. only when help someone when its really needed.otherwise it can be problem.

Yes, people are in the habit of judging others. One must look his own attitude and activities before pointing any fingures to others. I see myself, my negative and weak points, before raising a fingure against any of my acquaintances/friends, because I know no one is perfect. I myself is not perfect, so why should I expect others to be perfect.

Hi there dear friend! I have met a lot of people who are just like the girl you mentioned here. It is frustrating that people judge others and influence us into hating them. There were times I fell victim to these types of people. Now, I am more careful in choosing the people I talk to. When I meet people like them, I make sure that I do not let my guards down. I do not immediately believe what they say. I would rather find out for myself if what they are saying is true or not.

Hello checapricorn, That's a good lesson for you - do not trust a person when the very first time you meet her, she starts to talk bad about others! It happened to me too. I got to know this girl in my office when I first started working. The very first word that came from her mouth after the introduction was to be careful with this and that person. She had a very good reason - this person is a big mouth, that person is the boss's favorite and etc. I did believe at first but when I kept thinking, why she needs to tell me all at one time? I started to keep my distance from her and tried to get to know others slowly. I made my own judgement without letting others know how I felt towards them. As for the girl, I still befriend her. Whatever she says, it is just like a wind to me - I listen but I won't follow!

hey i have one friend which does the same, she might be more protective or she might want you to be with her, kind of insecure. Their are many people who dont think before saying anything about any one. cant change their habit because its impossible for us and for them. the only thing we can do is , to understand them.

Though I would politely listen to what others have to say I would use my own judgement when making friends. And if I found that someone is wrongly passing comments about others I would just ignore the person who is interefering.