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Of course I tried to convince her of not doing it, especially after what I have been through to have my daughter here today. Believe me she knows that my situation was way worse in how my daughter's father reacted and that no matter what I never let his attitude or reaction get in the way of her being here. I am a single mother with a beautiful daughter and when I stubbled upon the same situation i took responsibility for my actions and told both my parents and her father (who both opposed) God gave me two feet for a reason, to stand up straight and not have to lean on someone.. whether you behind me or not my baby will be here and that is a reality that needs to be accepted. Well, I am still going to try to convince her, I just can't believe she is being selfish.. she keeps saying that her life is going to change, no more partying, her body, a whole list of excuses.

My pray for you and your friend. I really hope she changes her mind and decide to keep the baby.

THank you for your support and for responding

It is true, it is her choice.. I just believe she is overwelmed and doesn't know how to really deal with pressure...I am going to continue trying to throw some suggestions here in there slowly in a way where she doesn't feel pressured because I know she is stressed. It seems as though I was going back in time to when I found out I was pregnant and hearing all the negative things my parents and my daughter's father said to me.. telling me I had options, that I have a whole life ahead of me, and that it was not too late even up to my eight month of pregnancy.. always negative comments,,, I blocked them out and have a beautiful 7 month old baby girl and after the first time her father held her his world and train of though totally changed.

That is really brave of you to fight for your baby. I think you should fight for your friend's baby now. Although you're right about taking it slow to convince her since she is under stressed. I am just am disappointed with that since me and my wife is trying to make one but it seems that we have a hard time making one and your friend was given that beautiful life and she is just denying that life in her womb. If that could just be transferred easily I would get it myself but that cannot be at all. Last option for her is to let her child to adoption if she does not really want her baby.

I really do not have an idea of why she is trying to go the easy way out.. it is so harsh.. she says O the baby is only a couple weeks they are going to give me a pill and poof gone.. well since i saw my aunt suffer from not being able to carry her own child in her own womb after dealing with 4 miscarriages, I was touched and learned that to have a child is an honor and so beautiful... it just makes me sad that she doesn't see the harm she will cause and that she will always hold that resentment.. when she can no longer make a decision to stop it.

THank you for the response you made towards the subject. I am still upset and down because regardless of what I tell her she is still set foward to do it. She went friday to get it done but she was only 3 weeks and you have to be 5 weeks.. she said she didn't feel anything when she saw her "bean" baby on the screen.. I was astonished that she didn't feel anything! Well her boyfriend and her are being ignorant.. as i would call he said he is going to get a tatoo of an angel on his back with the date the baby was conceived to the date it would have been born only because of the significance the date would have been since it falls around the same time their birthdays are April. I told her that it didn't make sense that they put those dates that in reality it needs to be the date it was conceived to the date of the Abortion that was voluntary.

It is incredibly sad that you friend did not feel love for her little bean that she saw on the screen. Pregnancy begins on day 1 of the womans last period. So if she finds out early that she is pregnant with a urine test she will be 4 weeks pregnant. There is a terrible abortion pill that is available for pregnancy up to 52 days in the USA and slightly longer in the UK. I hope that your friend will change her mind and become a loving mum. Abortion is horrific and gives physical pain at the time and emotional pain in the future. Adopting her baby would give a loving couple the chance to become a family.

She went last friday to get it done but they told her she was only 3 weeks and needed to be minimum 5 weeks to be able to do the procedure so therefore right now she is waiting 2 weeks to do it. All she said was that she wants to get it over with and that she couldn't believe that she was going to have to wait 2 extra weeks when she was ready to get it over with all I can do now is just respect her decision even though its hard because in the end it her her life and body and no matter what I tell her she still has the same train of thought which still blows me away because she was the type of girl that criticized other girls who went through it and I always told her to not comment on anything bc she didn't know how she was going to react when the situation stubbled upon her and now the true colors come out.

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