Incarcerated (Marriage) What Do You Think?

@Chevee (5905)
United States
August 16, 2008 4:34pm CST
I don't even now what to name this subject, but my sister married a guy, well this guy was incarcerated when she met him, working through work relief, that's where they let you out to go to work and you return back to jail, He was working as a temporary. Any was that was about 3 yrs ago. When he was finally out on parole, he broke his probation and ended up back in jail, now he is out again, in the whole three years she has been married to him. He has been locked up.( And by the way when he was paroled he stole from her.)What do you think of this would you call that being a weak person. Or doing and going through anything to have a spouse. She married him after he was out on parole the first time. He was a jailbird from jump street. She won't listen to anyone in the family, and will stop talking to you if say anything against him. But she thinks we should come to her rescue when she needs financial help.
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redkathy
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
16 Aug 08
For whatever reason your sister chose the life she has. Now it is time for her to take responsibility for her choices.You and the family should love her, continue to talk with her, and support her emotionally. As for finances, those problems are of her making and I don't think she will learn anything if the family constantly bails her out. Give her food if she is hungry, clothes if she needs but no money. I have two grown sons. I taught them everything I knew. My favorite saying to them when they were young still stands today, "If you are going to be dumb, you had better be tough!" Yes, I have helped them financially get through some rough spots. However, numerous repeated mistakes or thinking that Mom is going to bail them out doesn't work. They know they will hear that old saying again!
Chevee
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
16 Aug 08
very wisely said. I just can't feed that lazy bum of a husband she has, I just got through talking to her on the phone and he is on the sofa taking a nap. That rascal doesn't work anywhere.
checapricorn
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Hi Chevee, This is very complicated..ANyway, your sister must love this guy very much and that is why she is sticking to be with him no matter what..I wish this guy will learn to grow and will be more responsible enough, he is so lucky with your sister...I don't think so it is okay also for you all to be with her all the time during her financial problem....She has a way to choose another life but prefer to sacrifice with this man, she should or they should learn to improve their lives!