Still Married...After Thinking She Was Divorced...
By Wyldrose
@Wyldrose (1216)
United States
August 18, 2008 9:46am CST
My best friend just found out some news..after thinking she was divorced from a man she had been married to for three years, she found out that the divorce was never finalized!!!! 
What happened was that on the last day they were to go to court over the divorce, one of the lawyers never showed up and the judge ended up not signing the papers. Since the judge didn't sign the papers, the divorce was never finalized. Well for five years my friend thought she was divorced and went on living her life. Her "ex" was going to get married again and his soon-to-be went on the internet and checked into his background. Well she found out that her soon-to-be new husband was still married! So she quickly broke it off and he went looking for his "ex" wife. When he found her and explained the situation to her, she was livid! She was already settled into a lifestyle she enjoyed and was content with. Now she had to deal with the fact that she was still married to a guy who she thought cheated on her to begin with which is part of the reason they divorced. Well, they ended up talking and when it was all said and done they decided to get back together again! Turns out, he didn't cheat on her, he just told her that at the time to make her jealous. 
They seem to be happy now and have worked out all the kinks. I'm happy for them both but can you imagine after thinking you were divorced that you're really not??? What do y'all think? Has anything like this ever happened to you or anybody you know???
What happened was that on the last day they were to go to court over the divorce, one of the lawyers never showed up and the judge ended up not signing the papers. Since the judge didn't sign the papers, the divorce was never finalized. Well for five years my friend thought she was divorced and went on living her life. Her "ex" was going to get married again and his soon-to-be went on the internet and checked into his background. Well she found out that her soon-to-be new husband was still married! So she quickly broke it off and he went looking for his "ex" wife. When he found her and explained the situation to her, she was livid! She was already settled into a lifestyle she enjoyed and was content with. Now she had to deal with the fact that she was still married to a guy who she thought cheated on her to begin with which is part of the reason they divorced. Well, they ended up talking and when it was all said and done they decided to get back together again! Turns out, he didn't cheat on her, he just told her that at the time to make her jealous. They seem to be happy now and have worked out all the kinks. I'm happy for them both but can you imagine after thinking you were divorced that you're really not??? What do y'all think? Has anything like this ever happened to you or anybody you know???4 responses
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
18 Aug 08
To answer your question nothing like that has ever happened to me or anyone I know.
But to tell you the truth, I would investigate if the divorce was not final on my own, I would not be so fast to trust someone who thinks the best way to get even or make someone jealous is to tell a lie about their fidelity.
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I agree with you. I don't think she realized the divorce wasn't final. She had moved quite a few times and if there were any sort of papers, they could of gotten lost somewhere along the way. But if the judge didn't sign them, there probably wasn't any papers. I think she just assumed they were divorced. And I agree with you,I would never lie to my husband about being unfaithful...seems like an awfully low blow to me.
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
hahaha thats a nice story. they live happily ever after. like a story book.
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Did she receive a divorce certificate? You will know if you are divorced or not, by having your divorce papers. The final copy comes to you with a raised seal from the state you live in. It is hard for me to understand that she thought she was divorced, if she did not receive her papers. I don't know. I know that if I went through a divorce and did not receive my papers, I would go back to the court to find out what happened to them.
That's a very important life change, not to follow up on the precedures.
Well, I am glad they are happy together again, at least they did not have to get remarried
@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I agree with ya..I sure would want to know. I don't know why she didn't follow up on that. I know I would of. When I divorced my first husband, I made sure I had the decree in my hands. I even made a copy of it to be sure and in case I lost it for some reason.
@dagda24 (366)
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18 Aug 08
I'm quite suprised that your friend did not know she was still married. I'm not sure where you hail from but in England when a Divorce is finalised you always receive a document stating this, which you can then forward to various places in support of names changes etc.
It also seems strange that they would suddenly get back together after all this time. Did the woman the man was with and about to marry mean that little to him? Surely both had changed over the years, how can they be so sure that they still love each other when they are different people?
@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
18 Aug 08
She told me that she and her husband had the same lawyer and for some reason that lawyer didn't show up on the last day of court. I don't know why she didn't get papers of any kind..maybe because the judge didn't sign them and therefore they weren't finalized. I'm not sure what the relationship was between him and the other lady. It would seem she had some sort of suspicions about him for her to look up his background. It took a long time for he and my friend to work things out but I'm glad they did cause they are now both happy.
