child support
By aztcgirl
@aztcgirl (267)
United States
August 21, 2008 10:57am CST
my ex keep going after me for child support and back a while we both signed an paper that we wouldn't go after each other for child support , he has my son and i have his daughter, when i got divorced i couldn't have my son because i was homeless in a way moving from house to house until i moved in with my parents. so it point less. so i just got an phone call sun day saying i was back on support and i called them and they said i was behind and he had opened up an case in june and im behind 820 soon. im waiting for some to call me back so i can get all the court document and paper from them. and then show them that he had requested to terminate the case. so if they dont honor that then im going to go after him for support double the amount and see how he likes it. why should i be the only one paying i got his daughter . i keep in contact with my son, i send him money when i have it, and send him calling cards so he can call me. and he not in my daughter life , she thinks my husband is her father.
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
26 Aug 08
What I find shocking is that you're complaing abou having to support you child. WTF I mean really?
I understand that you don't work or what have you but why should your kids suffer? If you have a written agreement that has been court documented that's one thing, but to say oh well you don't have to pay, well that doesn't count.
If you can't afford the amount that's being requested they will drop it down based on your income.
I also find it appaling that your way of "retaliation" is to ask him to help support his daughter. Why hadn't you asked for help before?
Sometimes I wonder why people have kids if they can't even afford to support them.
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Well you yourself stated that you moved around a lot because you were homeless, so how exactlly was he expected to serve you properly. They attempt to serve at the last known address and after 30 days an order is put in automaticly.
The point however, isn't if he served your right or wrong, it's the fact that you are even complaing about it to began with. IT'S YOUR KID TOO.. meaning why are you so against paying to take care of him?
Pay the damn support and stop complaining about taking care of your child.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I would think if you have your daughter and he has your son , it would be even. It doesn't ever work out that way though, does it?
The way it goes here is that if each parent has one child, the support is determined by who makes more money. Say you take home 1000 a month and your ex husband takes home 1200 a month. The differences is 200 on his side, so he would have to pay you child support on that extra 200 that he makes over you. It is only a percent too.
So if he makes more money than you, you really should have nothing to worry about once in court.
@aztcgirl (267)
• United States
21 Aug 08
i dont work and he does, my dauhter is younger then my son and so he will have to pay out more. i know if i cant settle this then ill file on him and maybe child support will say she got one and you have one it a wash. and close the case completekly so either one of us is paying.
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@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I understand how frustrating this situation is, however since I have a legal background, I can tell you that no parents has the right to waive their rights to child support. It is not yours to waive, child support is for the child not the adults.
Having said that, since you each have one child, I would think that it would wash out in the end and be even. I have a couple of questions:
1. Is your ex-husband the father of your son?
2. Is your ex-husband the father of your daughter? (Is she your daughter too)?
3. What state do you live in?
These are some important questions that will contribute to the legality of child support. I can not offer you legal advise, I am not an attorney, but I can try and help explain the law to you a little.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Hi azt,
[i]I wish you will be able to settle that..that is not fair if he is not sticking to what was plan by the two of you!
how about calling him and confronting him about the real situation, maybe he needs to be reminded![/i]
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@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Interesting. I'm amazed that you did not get any court documentation in the first place. It's time for you to have a lawyer sort it out. I can only figure one scenario where you would have to pay no matter what agreement he made with you and that is if he needs public support for something relating to your son. If your son has become a welfare recipient, the welfare agency will come after you regardless whether he wanted it to stop. Otherwise, there shouldn't be a problem. Good luck!
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