left out in the crowd!!!
By magna86
@magna86 (1786)
India
August 24, 2008 1:43am CST
i am a very calm and silent girl!!or say that i am a reserved character!!
i do not make friends that easily!! and don like ti mingle with friends of a big group!!i always like to have a max of 3 friends around!! but not more than that!!
so whenever i am suroundec by a group of friends!! i always feel that i a left out!! i don know why!!
what is your view?
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6 responses
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
24 Aug 08
You are at conflict with your own character. You yourself say that you are a reserved type of person and prefer to be in a quiet, silent surrounding with not more than three people around you. So naturally, you are a quiet person and don't talk that much. How will people interact with you if you don't step out and talk to them first? They may think that you may feel disturbed if they forcibly try to bring you into the conversation, given that they know your character. You can't expect anyone to read your mind that although you don't like speaking that much, yet you don't want to be left out! It seems that you are very confused with what you want. Either go live in desolation enjoying the quietness and peace all around you or go straight head on and talk openly with others so that they may feel more enthused to speak with you, and not leave you out of their discussion.
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Maybe when you were younger,you were also shy so you didn't mingle much with other kids and you brought that until your current age. It's normal to be shy around people. The only way I see that you can improve this is to try and overcome your shyness. You can attend certain classes to make new friends or something. You can start slowly and not with a big group at once so that you can build your confidence around bigger groups.

@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
24 Aug 08
I guess you just like the closeness of friends, it is very easy to feel lonely in a crowd, I think I am very much the same, I don't really like to be in a big crowd, I think you will find there is a lot that feel the same...
@rocker21 (2716)
• India
24 Aug 08
I think you need to find yourself more, you dont know who you are yourself, first you say you dont easily make friends, and on the other side you feel complex when you see friends with a big group, you are misunderstanding your own identity that who you are and what you are all about, No stablity in your attitude results in this
Be yourself
@pinkytabor (818)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Hello there. I guess, you are close to being a loner. Or you are just plain shy. Or maybe, you fear that people might dislike you or not accept you for being who you are. Perhaps you need to discover who you really are, what you can do, what your talents are...because YOU ARE SPECIAL. And you have to share that "specialness" in you to others. Try to go out and share yourself, you might find yourself blooming one day into a more outgoing, beautiful person with so many friends who admire you. You will never feel left out again...because you reached out to others who need your friendship.
Go girl!
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
24 Aug 08
I can relate, as many people say that I don't talk much, and I've experienced the same thing. The big group would go on to talk about subjects that don't really concern me, and I'd be left having nothing to say. At least, with a closely-knit group of friends the conversation will mostly be about the same things you enjoy, so I guess thats why you feel left out?







