If you adopted a child, would you want him/her to look like you?

@Sheepie (3112)
United States
September 2, 2008 6:27pm CST
I mean, would you prefer a child that looks like he or she might really be your own child or would you be just as willing to take in a child who looked completely different compared to you and your partner?
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I wouldn't care what the child would look like. I would just want the child to have a happy home. I would be a little concerned I guess if the child was of a different race I guess but only because where I live there really isn't a lot of variety. I wouldn't want my child to be hurt or made fun of for being different. But it wouldn't matter to me what they look like. all i would want is for them to be happy and have a loving home.
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@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Well, children get made fun of no matter what at some point in their lives, so I would be glad that I could be there to teach the kid to stand up for himself and not take crap from anybody.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
3 Sep 08
What the child looked like wouldnt be of any concern to me....I'd just want that child to be with us and grow up loved unconditionally, happy, healthy and so on....And as for ppl who DO want an adopted child to look like them...well I'm sorry but I have serious issues with that...
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@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
Well if I had to adopt, I would take that into consideration. You know what, most of the time, an adopted child starts looking like the adoptive parents. Maybe it is because of staying with them 24/7 also.
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@relundad (2310)
• United States
3 Sep 08
If adopting looks would probally not be a concern of mine. I think if given the choice I probally would prefer a child of the same race. I would definitely tell the child that he/she was adopted and it would be his choice if he/she decided to share that information with friends,playmates,etc. I think it would be one less thing to deal with if the child was of the same race. But who knows maybe he will recognize how he was adopted out of love and could care less if he was of the same race or not.
• United States
3 Sep 08
In my opinion I would not care about any features that the child might have I would accept them however and try to make them feel as welcomed as can be whatever characteristics they may come with. I do not need them to look like me nor my partner.
• United States
3 Sep 08
It wouldn't matter to me if I had adopted a child on whether or not they looked like me. I would still love them just as if they were my own.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I would think that people who were interested in adopting a child, would be thankful for just that, A CHILD If they were trying to get a child that resembled them, they are vain, and probably would not be the right people to adopt. Too many people are so concerned with outer appearance instead of the character of a person. To adopt for resemblance is not good.