One more update on - I want to save my marriage ideas?  |
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|  Hi every one! Thank you so much for all your support over the last few months. I again thank every one that responded to my discussions about my marriage. Just wanted to give every one an update.
Although I came home to a different person and things were going very well he has filed for a divorce. It basically came out of no where again. I shouldn't say out of no where because of all that has been going on but I really thought things were better. Things were much better then they had been we were talking and touching, seemed to be getting better everyday. Until he came home from work and said "you will be receiving papers some time next week." He has since bascially moved out. He comes over in the morning before I go to work to stay with our daughter and takes her to grandmas. I pick her up from there as always. He has been taking her every other weekend too.
All that being said I must say this - Although I don't want a divorce I can't stay in a relationship with the emotional roller coaster he has put me on. I can't stay with some one that I don't trust and honestly I don't trust him with my emotions any more. So theres my update sorry to dissapoint you but I'm sure you already knew it was coming. I did in a way. Thanks again for every thing and by the way - I'm actually okay.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1616148.aspx
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1636454.aspx
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1.  bellaofchaos (3112)
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4 years ago
| |  Hun I'm so sorry I wish things had tured out differently for you. But maybe this is the best. I stick by my first observation. But I will say that I feel for you and that you are in my heart. If you need to talk I'm here. I know that seperation and divorce are not easy and that there are still a lot of things that need worked out in the long run but remember this you tried and did your best and when you look back don't think maybe if I did this or if I did that things would be different, never ever think that you gave it a try you worked with him. Now it's time to close you heart and think of what you need from him and out of this divorce to make life easier for you and your daughter he walked away not you. I'm not saying be vengeful but be realistic to you and your daughters needs and when you go into divorce court make sure you get it. Take care dear this is never easy but honestly you will survive and get through it trust me on that one .. I have past experience. Take care and many hugs to you and your daughter. Please do me a favor sit done the both of you with her and make sure that she realizes that this is not her fault she can't fix it and that you and daddy have just grown apart and are better off seperately. Because wether she says it or not all kids feel that they are the reason at first and think that there is something that they could have done to stop it you want to drill it in now that this has nothing to do with her and everything do to with the fact that you grew apart.(even if the true reason is something else.)
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 ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | Thank you again - first let me say once my daughter gets older I will be sure to make sure she knows this had nothing to do with her. She is too young to understand now (only 21 months).
As for the divorce because of expenses we are getting a non contested divorce which is much cheaper and much easier. I told him I won't sign any thing until he signs the paper work I am having done - which is the custody and settlement stuff. Believe me I am getting what I want, need and then some.
I can honestly walk away knowing that I did every thing in my power to save this marriage. He is the one that withdrew months ago. I won't ever regret my time with him it was a learning experance, a hard one but I have learned from my mistakes and his and know that I am a better and stronger person because of him. Plus he gave me a beautiful daughter that is the light of my life. | | | |
| bellaofchaos (3112)
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4 years ago
| | Your a strong woman and I'm very proud of you and hope that you find someone one of these days that are worthy of you. | | | |
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| 2. Irishfrndly65 (8534)
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4 years ago
| |  I KNOW how hard all this is, even though we pulled out at nearly the last minutes, it is still such a trip of raw emotions! I am glad he is giving time to your wee one! You are in my prayers as you go through this tough time. Just know you WILL come out of it! Take is easy gal!
How's selling the house going?
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| ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | Nothing on the house - our open house is the 21st hoping to get some people in if not - I am dropping the price.
Thanks for the prayers I need them! I will get through it and honestly I am really doing okay so far. | | | |
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| 3. joy4you (577)
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4 years ago
| |  Wish you all the courage and all the best for the life ahead.
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| ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | Thank you I need it! | | | |
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| 4. ronaldinu (9358)
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4 years ago
| |  I have read both threads. You have made me shed a tear, cos I can understand what pain you have might gone through. I don't have much to say, just I ' ll keep you in my prayers. Keep strong because your 21months daughter need you at this moment.
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| ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | Thank you - I need all the prayers I can get! | | | |
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| ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | Thank you for your words. I know that not every relationship is ment to be forever and I did think this one was but over the past few weeks of being alone I have reflected on our relationship and realize that although the first 3 years were great this last year we both changed we both fell out of that butterfly in your belly love. He was my friend and when we stopped being friends is when we stoped being us. Well it happens. I didn't want the divorce but I realize I was holding on more for my daughter then for me. Now its time I find ME again. I am not longer Brians wife I am Erika again. And I kind of like it! | | | |
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| ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | I sent you a PM | | | |
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| 6. morninglory518 (40)
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4 years ago
| |  I just read through all your discussions and comments regarding your situation...yes, what an emotional rollercoaster you've been on! If everything happens for a reason, then there's something better for you in the future. Hang in there. I'm just wondering... did the two of you have to leave Florida for some job opportunity in PA? It sounds like he hasn't been happy in PA, but that you've been OK. I just know it will really be troublesome for everyone involved (especially your daughter) if he moves back to Florida and you stay in PA. Anyway, I know this is difficult to go through.... stay strong and best of luck to you!
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| ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | This is a bit confusing. I will try to put it in "good" words.
He had moved to FL about a year and a half prior to our meeting.
He had 2 kids still living in PA - From his first marriage.
We met and after about a year he and I talked about moving to PA to be closer to his kids.
We moved to PA when he said he wanted to.
He didn't say he wanted to move back to FL until after the first divorce discussion. Then after he said he wanted to move back he stopped coming home. And a few days later told me I should be expecting my divorce papers any day.
He now won't move back to FL so I am stuck here in PA for the good of my daughter. His entire family lives here in PA. My entire family lives in FL. I don't have one family member here in PA. And I really don't want to be here. I really never have wanted to be here but I stayed for him and now am staying so that my daughter can know her dad.
Thank you for your words of encouragement they are appreciated and needed. | | | |
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| ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | Can't find any one to help but did hire some one at a whole $125 an hour. I did all the paper work myself and she is going over it to be sure it will hold up in court if needed. I will call or email you the details.
Jr coming here would be fantastic!!! We had a good talk I think we both needed to hear eachother and know we are there for eachother no matter what. He was funny when I told him what was happening. He used a funny word for B that I can't use here! I needed the laugh as did he!
Lulu comes home today!!! I'm so very excited!! I can't wait to see her this trip was too long! | | | |
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| 8. jands1 (474)
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4 years ago
| |  I am really sad to hear this ebsharer. I wish the very best for you and your daughter. *hugs*
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| ebsharer (2481)
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4 years ago
| | Thank you - I need hugs these days!! | | | |
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