He/She is having an affair!

If I am her or his best friend than I would tell them no matter whatever is the outcome of our meeting. She or he would respect me for their life time even if they do despise me at that moment. Honesty is the best policy.

If a friend of mine is actually married then yes i will definitely tell her husband about the affair. But before that i will let her know my opinion regarding her relationship with another men. It is never right to tolerate a friend just merely because you care so much of the friendship. I believe that a good friend will always want what is best for a friend and that includes letting her know that what she did is wrong. Trying to correct her action and hoping she will listen. I cant carry the burden of keeping a secret over something that i know is immoral. Adultery is wrong and it will never be considered right to tolerate a friend just because you value the friendship. But on the other hand if she was just having a gf/bf kind of relationship. I would let her make a decision for herself. Advise her to end up first the relationship with her bf before starting another one.

If it was my best friend's partner I would definitely talk to the guy first and ask him what's the deal. As much as I do not want to get in between I need to tell my best friend because she is my best friend. I need to protect her at all cost from getting hurt.

Remember the old saying "they kill the messenger"? well that's pretty true to form. You are right. If they were unhappy then it might feel like you should. But otherwise maybe back off. I have never ran into that situation but had a friend that I golfed with that was having an affair on her husband and I was friends to both of them. I didn't say anything but walked away from the relationship. It was her decision to have an affair but mine not to be involved.

I'd tell my best friend. She would hate me more from hiding secrets from her that she should know. It'd hurt more that I know and she doesn't. I don't want my best friend to waste time. I want her to find someone better so there. I don't care if she hates me for telling whilst she's happy in the relationship. She has to know..