Does Long distance love have more distractions..more chances of cheating.?
@shankari_prabhu (321)
India
September 24, 2008 10:50am CST
hey guys....I have been in a long distance relationship for the past year and a half......Iam looking at people to be very frank while responding to this discussion...In the past 1.5 years i have had a few attractions here and there however...the love for my guy always prevailed...
How about you guys.....?
And for those who got married after being in a long distance affair....did u feel more secure and less tempted to have other attractions or guilty thoughts...?
Awaiting feedback from the experienced lot...
6 responses
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I have been into LDR for 3 years. In 2 years of our LDR, temptation is really everywhere and anytime. But I tried myself to focus to my man. After we met in person, I never really had time of anything but just focus with our relationship. I was very patient waiting for the right time for us to be together again, and yeah it took 3 years for that. Cheating is very easy to do if you will grab it. But if you are smart enough what's right or wrong and your limitations you can survive it! And that's what I did. Now that we are together, happily married!
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
24 Sep 08
It is normal to admire or have crushes to someone. But you should know your limitations too. If you love your man and want your relationship to remain, you need to be responsible for it. The decision is within yourself if you're going to grab every temptation comes.
@shankari_prabhu (321)
• India
24 Sep 08
so it is okay to have crushes right..? I know i sound hopelessly childish.....:-)
I know i really love my boyfriend but we meet once in two months....although when we meet i want time to freeze....the after effects when he leaves is sooo irritating sometimes:-) if u know wat i mean....anyways got used to it by now....
@adriantys78 (949)
• Malaysia
24 Sep 08
Congratulation on the situation, happily married and believe it will happily ever after too. =) You have touch on key point, the person should know which is right or wrong, everyone is mature enough and should responsible for the actions and consequences if cheating.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
24 Sep 08
[i]During the time I was away from my husband, we are both secure and we trusted each other, we never had any fights or arguments due to jealousy or thoughts that one might cheat...We talked twice a day online or over the phone!
When a person loves to cheat, he is far or near, he will always find a way![/i]
@shankari_prabhu (321)
• India
24 Sep 08
so when u were away from him....did u have other attractions....Now that you guys are at reachable distance...has anything changed?
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@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Nope really..I was very busy at work and then I am very picky also and I don't find any other guys before whom I was attracted, lots of male friends at work but just up to friendship, no attractions at all and now that we are together 24/7, we become more closer and we really enjoy it!
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
25 Sep 08
well 90% of the time long distance do not work however in some cases it does work my daughter had a long distance relationship they talked on line for about 1 year then went to go meet him after about thirty days they got married.they have been married for about 5 and a half years they have 1 son thats 16 months old they are still enlove so you see long distance marriage can work in some cases.being away from your love one makes your heart grow funder of your mate.
@angel_of_charm (4133)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
Frankly? doubts never left me...i always thought what he is up to and what is he doing every time..is he with another girl or was flirting with someone else..i always carry the trust for him but the thing is temptations are always everywhere...once he did it and i left me skeptical but my love for him prevailed and never left him...though we had fights about the past we always manage to resolve the issue...but somehow the doubts are still there...once i will be with him i know it will be gone..the doubts and everything else...i think i'll be more secure and doubtless whenever i'm with him..
@patzel88 (3310)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
i have been 2 years for having a long distance relationship and it is really hard to say that in my experiences it really distract the relationship by being tempt to someone where you can always see him/her. but the important thing is to have faith in the relation that we have because that is the thing that i do in my relationship. and i finally married to the man in which we are in 12 years of marriage now and being together.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Absence will do one of two things to a relationship. You will either grow closer, or grow apart. If you feel closer even though you are far apart, there is a good chance your relationship will survive, provided your guy feels the same. If you feel farther apart, chances are you are better off moving on to othe prospects.
Long distant relationship, in my opinion do raise the chances of cheating. However, if your love is true, it will prevail. Now woould be a good time to ask yourself if you really love this person or is it just a habit.
