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myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover 4 years ago

I am 24. People around me tease me about becoming an old maid. They say that 25 is the ideal marrying age for women and I just have one more year to catch the train. I don't have a steady boyfriend right now. Though I have suitors and friends around me. I am not in the hurry for marriage. I want to enjoy life more and want to make sure I have all that I wanted to have before building a family. I wanna be ready for it. Besides, I didn't find Mr. Right yet, so why settle for just anybody? Marriage is a serious and lasting stuff, I have to think that over.

I remember my "childhood sweetheart" Marvin. He was the basketball hero of the men's team while I was the captain ball of the women's volleyball team way back in high school. Friends tease us all through our high school years but we were young then, we never really took everything seriously. But I remeber marvin telling me that if ever we'll be approaching 25 and still unattached, we'll be settling for each other and I really think he was serious that time so I guess I was serious too when I said yes. But after high school days, Marvin and his family went away, no communication, no contacts. I wonder where he is? I wonder if he'll honor our silly promises, LOL! Calling Marvin, Calling Marvin, you have a year to grab this once in a lifetime opportunity to marry this amazingly beautiful lady, hahaha!

Ok, back to serious business. Is 25 really the ideal age for marriage? What time did you get married? Must I think seriously of my present civil status? I will really appreciate your responses.

 

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tags:  marriage, love, marrying age, age, life
 
1. lrootwang (28)   4 years ago

it is really a stupid rumor.marriage is crucial in ones life.marriage need love and predestination but time.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Yeah, it is really stupid, but well, I sure don't wanna be an oldmaid LOL!


myLot reputation of 69/100. xayuk69 (205)   ranked 3,251 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

I think there is no ideal age for marriage. The ideal time comes when you really find the right person that you would like to spend your entire life with!


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Hi xayuk69, I dig your point, I always tell my friends about that, but they're just so fond of teasing me, LOL!

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2. myLot reputation of 97/100. djoyce71 (1649)   ranked 1,487 out of 3,606 in lover   4 years ago

Hello Joyce.happy

I think you should not be in a hurry. You can continue enjoying your life for now. Mr. Destiny will surely come in a right time.

For me, 24 is still early for marriage. I'd prefer 27 to 30, with a job, and a bank account. I married when I was 27, had a job, a bank account and had a house before marriage.happy

Have a nice day!lol


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Thanks Joyce, hehehe. I am sure Mr. Right is just around the corner. Wow, good for you, a house of your own. I'm still paying my lot right now, I think I'll start building my dreamhouse next year. Lucky men aren't they? Hahaha!

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3. ThusSaysTheProphet (40)   4 years ago

The ideal marrying age is 73, thus says the prophet.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

uh uh, 73, not for me though, good I have no prophet friend with me, LOL!


ThusSaysTheProphet (40)  4 years ago

It has been prophesized, please do not turn away from your destiny, thus says the prophet.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Uh uh. I'll be very afraid if I am destined to get married at 73, can't I get away from that "destiny"? I wanna be a wife before I die, LOL!

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4. myLot reputation of 99/100. n30wing (2082)   ranked 38 out of 3,606 in lover   4 years ago

I think if it was meant for you it just happen. It's better to be slow then commit a life time mistake. So what other people say it's your life, and you make your own life. Just take your time, and be happy with life. It's not them who will decide it's you so don't think about your civil status. I' m almost turning 33 I'm very serious about my gf. I love her but we never rush, it's been almost two years now that I am into relationship, yes we do have plans to settle down by december but she wants first for us to know each other more anyway were living in one roof, and as long as we love each other their wont have any problem and accept each other faults and mistakes. Thei are alot of single who is older then you but they don't care about their age, as long as their satisfied with their life. I know also that life is very hard they focus first with their carreer and family. It's easy to get married but it's hard to go out. Life is not perfect, we just make most of it. It's better just to feel love then never felt love anyway. In love you don't ask in return. Nothing stays permanent but only yourself. You can't tell what will happen next. It's just an advice you take it or you leave it! I hope you have a good day!


cestfeifei (25)  4 years ago

I echo your point. Be prudent in each step forward, otherwise there is no way back. People's choices make their lives different and unique. There is no best age for marriage. It depends on how you think about it. When it comes, it just happens.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Wow! Good for you and your gf! But, I don't think I'll go for live-in though. No offense meant, people are entitle to thier own opinions, I have nothing against that, but then I don't think people around me would approve me living together with a man without marriage, I don't think I can do so too... Anyway, I love your response, you are so honest and yes, very helpful. I'll think of all these things, thank you so much for dropping by.

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5. myLot reputation of 99/100. Shellyann36 (1432)   ranked 2,675 out of 3,606 in lover   4 years ago

I feel that you should marry only when you have found the right person. I also feel that there is such a thing as being married too young. You should enjoy yourself by yourself for a while. Marriage tends to change things and normally along with marriage comes children and that will have a big change on your life. Not a bad thing but there will be no more spontaneous, "I am going to the beach for the weekend just because I can" type things. Or at least that is how it was for me. I am afraid I got married at a young age and I really did not grow up to be myself I was what my husband wanted me to be up until we separated. You should know yourself before ever committing to such a serious relationship. Don't worry about that clock ticking.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

You have a point there. It should be the person not the clock. But I'm a little worried about the biological aspect of a woman as well. Of course I want to build a complete family, yes, that's children, 3 of them. But I will surely get married when I'm ready, emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and spiritually. I want my parents' almost perfect marriage.

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6. myLot reputation of 48/100. GloomCookieLex (3335)   ranked 524 out of 3,606 in lover   4 years ago

The only ideal age for marriage is whatever age you are when you meet the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. I do not understand why people set "marriage goals" for themselves like that. Why settle for Joe Schmoe just so you can say you're a wife? That's so unsatisfying.

Don't let people corral you into doing something you aren't ready and don't want to do. There is NOTHING wrong with not being married.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Amen to that! I love being SINGLE, the fun never stops! LOL! I have so many things I'm yet to do with my life and I certainly don't want marriage to stop me from attaining them. I'm sure my friends meant no harm, maybe they just think that I'm ready for marriage (and some of them are suitors, so they can be a "pest" at times, LOL!). I'm not yet marrying, but I'll definitely find myself my Mr. Right! Thanks for the response Gloom.


myLot reputation of 48/100. GloomCookieLex (3335)   ranked 524 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Kudos! Good luck with your goals.

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7. myLot reputation of 96/100. modstar (4968)   ranked 389 out of 3,606 in lover   4 years ago

You seem like a nice lady. My name is Marvin but i made a contract long ago with a 32 year old lady not with a 24 year old hottie. When she reaches 40 then if she's still single, i'll ask her to marry me. But of course that was just a play. Nothing serious. Marrying age for women is the age where women wanted to settle down with her boyfriend be it 24 or 32 or older. Have a nice day!


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

One Marvin down! I wonder where the other Marvins are? Too bad I'm 8 years younger than that "seemingly" lucky lady who were offered a marriage by a "seemingly" nice guy LOL! Sad that it was just a play though. Anyway, you have a good point, it should be the right time, not the right age. Have a great day too!

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8. myLot reputation of 72/100. chiaeugene (1488)   ranked 1,397 out of 3,606 in lover   4 years ago

there is no standard age to get into marriage. the most important factor is that both of you must be ready for marriage life. it a real jump from singlehood into marriage. it is not as simple as just sharing a bed together. there are a lot more to it. we are seeing more divorce these days because a lot of couple rushed into marriage and then realised that they are not compatible staying together sharing the same bed in the same house. after going thru a failed marriage once, i would think seeking advice from a marriage counsellor or adviser would be good to prepare one for marriage if anyone of thinking to do so. this would prepare one to be ready for the demand and expectations in a marriage and i believed it would help. marriage is not a game. it is about spending more than half of your life togehter with someone whom you think you can trust and rely upon. the hurt and pain would be very much to bear if somewhere down the road then you realisd that he or she is not suitable and you are no longer young. so do not rush into marriage as this decision making is the toughest in your lifetime.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

My sentiments exactly! Great response chiaeugene, I appreciate that. Marriage is never a game, I am the living witness that my parents mean serious business. Theirs is an ideal marriage. I'm sure they've got problems but they were able to stay inlove until now. I just love to see them happy together even on their old age and I want the same marriage for me. I promise I won't rush myself then, I sure do want to get married ONLY ONCE. Have a great day!

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9. myLot reputation of 94/100. cookie1971 (1951)   4 years ago

There is no ideal age to get married.

If you are not ready for marriage then don't even think about marriage. So enjoy your life as you are if that is what makes you happy. Don't let any one tell you different.

So get out there and enjoy life to the fullest. Only you know when you are ready for marriage. You will know what the idea marrying age is for yourself.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Hi there cookie, yes, I am not having thoughts of plunging in that kind of life though like a normal person I also envision myself at times having my own family. But I'm not in a hurry at all, my friends are lunatic, I love them but well, they can get crazy sometimes, LOL!

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10. myLot reputation of 93/100. cjfoust (522)   ranked 2,673 out of 3,606 in lover   4 years ago

If you think you are getting teased, imagine how I feel. I am 23 years old and have been married for 4 years. I've been lucky though. I think I found the Mr. Right the first time. Everyone had and some still have doubts that my husband and I will last because we got married so young. I think people doubting us just makes our love for each other that much stronger. Sometimes I do feel I got married too young, but when I look at the big picture, both of us have done really well for ourselves and I would never change a thing.


myLot reputation of 92/100. WildWetJoyce (106)   ranked 182 out of 3,606 in lover  4 years ago

Wow! You are one of those lucky few. I've known people who married at the young age but haven't been successful. I'm pretty sure you found your Mr. Right, I'm so happy for you. I'm finding myself one of those too! LOL! Happy mylotting!

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