Biggest fear
@mag_keizer2007 (1282)
Canada
October 8, 2008 6:49pm CST
This is by far one of my biggest fears...I don't care about my birthdays as they go by but I am scared to death of getting old and dying...And I am only 28 years old. I want to get older...so my kids will be out on there own and I can do the things I want to but I do not want to get so old they have to look after me...I hear stories about moms dying and it scares me...
How about you
2 responses
@dncmanning (770)
• United States
9 Oct 08
You know, this is a real fear for many people and I have seen this fear on the faces of many patients. The reality is this as you get older the fear starts to diminish, but as you get older than that it starts to creep back in. The only thing I know in this life for certainity is that we all will die- that is the circle of life.
Is it possible that your fear is rooted in some regret- if you so address that. If not and you can't control those feelings or if they start to impact your day to day living- you may want to talk with someone and the first and best place to start is usually your primary care doctor.
PS: It's ok to be fearful that too is part of life but when it starts to effect your daily life it is time to seek help.
I wish you all the best.
@mag_keizer2007 (1282)
• Canada
9 Oct 08
what do you mean about regretting....regretting something I did in my life or not doing and I don't want to miss that oppurtunity. The reason I fear it is because I don't want to miss seeing my children grow up...I think it has something to do with my father passing away when I was 15. He never got to meet his grandkids or see me graduate. He was old tho and had a good life. He was 85...yes he had me at an old age but i do miss him and i wish i had done more with him before he passed away but i was 12 when he got sick and really did not understand what was going on...then he just got worse and I acted like it was suppose to be that way.
Oh well I don't think it has affected my life...like I'm not scared to go outside and play...I am nervous to drive...have not gotten my drivers license yet...but i have my beginners and I am going to do it this time...
thanks for the response
@dncmanning (770)
• United States
9 Oct 08
What I mean about regrets is something that you may have failed to do or something that you have done that you simply wish you haven't.
I am sorry to hear about your father- but at 85 if he lived a good life I am sure he left this earthly world knowing that he loved and was loved. And that is an amazing thing.
I think every parent has a small amount fear that they won't see their children grow up- I know I did when I faced a cancer scare, diagonses, and treatment 3 years ago- but I tried to take the bull by the horns so to speak and live everyday to its fullest. The fear left as soon as I realized it was hindering my realationship with my children. Note: Living free and loving it for 2 years now!!!!
I wish you all the best and good luck in all you do.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Well, all I can say is that we don't know when or how but sooner or later we would be leaving this world even if we're not ready for it. Only He knows when.
But, while waiting for our time. Why don't you just do what makes you happy and what creates a bond between you and your kids. Having the fear of dying or any fear for the matter only stops you from living life. These fears compel you not to do anything and keep yourself 'safe' so that nothing could harm you but it also stops you from pursuing your dreams and passions.
So I dare say "let it be!" we may not know when but at least our kids could remember us as someone who dared live. Someone who had time for them and while we're alive, we could teach or share with them valuable memories and experiences.
Stop fearing.. Embrace the possibilities!
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