Whatever Happened To Getting Married? Is that a no no anymore?

well, i just got married last january. i do believe that married is still an important and sacred thing. here in the philippines, alot of people still prefer being married that just living together. a church wedding is better than just a civil one. i think marriage requires commitment and i think people who are just living together and don't want to get married are irresponsible because marriage entails responsibilities to your spouse and especially to your children. it also gives a chance to cheat or look for someone else. marriage is a lifetime promise to stay together. it's just sad that sometimes, couples end up being separated. it is very lonesome for their children and it can affect them greatly.

I think it is. You are not alone on this, my friend. I still think that getting married is a good thing. That is why i am happy that my daughter and her boyfriend got married recently, because they have been living together for a year. So, knowing that they got married makes me feel contented. At least now, i know that my daughter is a little secured because they are married.

Meet another old fashioned member, Hatley! I think getting married is for people who want a serious and committed relationship..one that has meaning and takes a lot more than walking out the door to finish. Lots of younger people want the results of marriage but none of the work, and it is hard work. Many of those non marriage relationships fail, though..probably more than marriages, since they're easier to terminate.

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Hi Hatley,

Getting married is a very good thing and I am happy that after my search, lol, I met a person who loves me and my family and whom I love also!
It's a commitment and a big responsibility so maybe that is some of the reasons why other prefer to just live first without having any civil or church wedding! Trying to check first if their relationship will work or not!

I ma very happy that in my entire family, everyone values marriage and non of my relatives and family member is living together without having the ceremony!

Hi Hatley,
Marriage is a commitment between two people that love each other to live, love and obey each other for a lifetime. Or at least that is what I feel it is.

Living together is an experiment between two people to see if it will work out for them with out the hassle of having to go through all the legalities. It is also a sin against God.

Marriage offers more security than just living together. Things are done together, towards a betterment of life for both participants. Because of a piece of paper, it is harder to get out of, so it should be something that is taken very serious and should only be undertaken by someone that is totally committed to the end result.

When living together, there is no ties, either party can just get up and walk out the door for the silliest reason. Where is the investment to that unity?

Divorce is bad, but so is being left by someone you thought really cared for you. There just isn't as much financial turmoil after, just a broken heart and lots of loneliness.

Have a nice day...

I believe in marriage. If I got married the only things that would cause me to divorce him would be if he was physically abusive, or if he cheated on me. People get married these days with the thought in the back of their mind that if things go wrong, there is always divorce. A lot of people have legit reasons for divorce. But who said marriage was easy? I would never live with someone, and it isn't just because of the old saying why buy the cow when you could get the milk for free. I'll live with a man when and if I get married. I'll have a child after I get married. I plan to do those things in order.

Living together without marriage is still a rare concept in india and is onloy confined to the metros. marriage is still very much the done things. I believe that marriage is a very good institution and shoud be followed.

marriage is a good thing but why marry if you know in your heart of hearts it not going to last.the,re are still a lot of marriages the point is 50% of marriages whine up in divorce court. marriage are not lasting forever until death do you part these days. people are divorcing for stupid stuff.why marry if you are going to be miserable.people are not waiting to get to know each other well enough these day you don,t know a person after 1 year of dating iam sorry you just don,t.to get married it takes time to know each other.