What if your partner who was engaged with you broke up the engagement....

@laydee (12798)
Philippines
November 23, 2008 10:02pm CST
I thought of this topic while answering a fellow mylotter's topic about 'what if you are engaged and saw Mr./Ms. Right? Would you break off the engagement' (for those who haven't seen it, look for it, it's a great topic there). Now, here's the topic then. What if you were the other person. Your partner (you are engaged with her/him) decides to break off engagement with you because he/she felt or saw someone else. She/he pursues the person. Of course, you're heartbroken and all. Then after a while, they return to you, asks for forgiveness and does everything to apologize. Would you still accept the person you love who broke off your engagement? Would there still be room in your heart to forgive him/her?
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dloveli
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I think I may kill him! lol. I think that becoming engaged should take alot of thoughful planning. For either side to break it off at this point is kind of inconsiderate. However, I have so many friends that have became so ugly about their weddings. I would rather have someone call it off now than wait until I get down the isle and say "I do". THats an expensive mistake both financially and emotionally. Please think carefully about making such a big step. All in all I guess I would be devastated. However, it would be better to call it off at the engagement rather than the wedding ceremony. dl
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laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
Hahahahahaha!!! OH yeah, definitely people should be sure first before saying yes to anything, it's not all fun and games when commitments are needed, right? Perhaps it's still best to call off the engagement than make a scene at the ceremony. Whew! I couldn't imagine. Just curious though, you said that you have so many friends that became so ugly about their weddings, did these things actually happen to them? I've always thought of these things happening in T.V. Dramas and not in real life. Whew! Anyhow, you didn't answer my question directly. You said you're going to kill him. Does this mean you're not going to accept his proposal once more? Thanks for the comment friend. Understanding your illness doesn't have to be complicated, visit www.diagnoseurillness.com for more information on health.
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chiaeugene
@chiaeugene (2225)
• China
26 Nov 08
no way should i accept him back cos history will definitely happen again as he or she had already proven it once. Breaking an engagement is not a joke and i think as a thinking adult, he or she would have thought of the consequences and damages before doing it. And if he or she is willing to break it off to go after somebody, this would already be enough to show me that he or she does not like me with his/her heart and does not deserve the same from me too. I would be more than happy to break it off and find somebody who is willing to spend the rest of their life with me
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anniepa
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
26 Nov 08
Wow, this is a tough one! Without ever having been in a situation like that it's pretty easy to say "NO WAY!" could I trust him again. However, love isn't something you can turn off and on like a light switch so it's really hard to answer honestly. On one hand, of course I'd always have to wonder if it could happen again, if he could just take off after another person he decided suddenly was the "one"? On the other hand, maybe it was a one-time mistake, a case of him not really appreciating me until I was gone and of him seeing that I was really the only one he loved. There are many questions here: Is taking him back and forgiving him worth the risk of getting hurt again? Is NOT doing so worth the risk that I may be throwing away the love of my life? Even if he never does such a thing again, could I ever TRULY forgive and forget or would it end up destroying the love we share? As I said, it's a tough one! Annie
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