Was it love or lust?

@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
December 2, 2008 9:47pm CST
When we express our love for someone of the opposite gender how can we be sure it is pure and not lust? This was another uncertainty which I used to have. What about you? How for example did you recognise the purity of your feelings? I would be grateful if you could share your thoughts or opinions and experiences.
5 responses
jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
i guess you dont just see it...rather feel it..you could feel if it is love or lust..there is just a difference in it,the way that person is to you, the way that person acts around you..there is just a big difference..
rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
What you said is true for most of us. We react or act according to what we feel. We have different interpretations and as a result some of us have heated arguments between each other. I understand what you mean because I myself find it difficult to define what love really is. Thank you for your response.
jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
yes true!
subha12
@subha12 (18441)
• India
3 Dec 08
I had never been in love. but it is something that is really very difficult. I think you must see at the real feelings the person is having.
rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
Never been in love? In a way you are lucky because so far you are spared from the trial and tribulations of being in love. Being in love is not easy to many of us. Only a few are lucky and spared the heartaches. Thank you for your response.
jammyt
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
I guess it was when I just wanted to see him everyday irregardless of what we did. We could have hung out, watched a movie played in an amusement park or something, I didn't care as long as we were together. Also, when we talk, whether on the phone or in person, it feels just right. That's when I knew it was love.
rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
It is that kind of feeling, is not it? Difficult to explain to others but many can understand. A feeling if loss when the other person is away/ A tinge of jealousy when others pay extra attention to him/her. Thank you for your response.
jordan04n
@jordan04n (463)
• United States
3 Dec 08
The heart is deceitful among all things who whold know it....prayer is the only way to solve such a problem....it worked for me.
rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
After my first experience I did not completely trust human hearts. Prayer does work as long as we have trust. Thank you for your response.
piya84
@piya84 (2580)
• India
3 Dec 08
its just the way we feel when the person we love is around us...we feel joy...as music is in the air... lust we will physical attraction only...
rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 08
Even though lust is usually seen as physical attraction of another person, there is more to it. For example we can lust for something which the other person has. A kinder word would be crave or desire. Anyway, this is only my opinion. Thank you for your response.