Newlyweds: Pregnant or not?  

It probably won't stop until you have a baby and when you do the next question will be when are you going to have another one? They never stop with the baby thing it's up to you both when to have a baby when they ask you again just tell them "When it's time we will have one". Or you can ask them when they are going to have another or something along the lines of directing the pressure off you and back on to them. I think you are very wise to wait until you can afford a baby.

I am in the same situation as u... i got married august 23rd.. and my mom was telling me to get pregnant in november.. and i said nope...dont want to rite now.. but she is like at least have one for now.. but rite now.. i am still in university.. and dont have a job.. i want to get myself established first before having a baby... plus if i want to complete school.. i need someone to look after the baby.... and its hard to deal with school and a baby...

Some people start to ask this kind of question, maybe because they are caring for you. Or maybe they just want to have more topics..anyways...and if you have so many relatives and neighbours who know you very well and have a good relationship with your family. They would continue to ask everytime you meet with them.Unfortunately you will get sick of that. Well, if you consider those conversations as concerns. You would be much happier !!! And you ask why you want to plan before baby comes? That's because not only you desire a better life without risk, but also it's your desire. Am I right? Every women would also think like you. It's just normal. Just do whatever you want to do for your new family! Happy Marriage!

if u love someone n have married. u should have pregnent otherwise ur hus will leave u cause baby give us more joyful when we sadness

amyers, i understand your predicament.

when marriage was still so far away from my mind, i was thinking of preparing myself enough first before getting into it. i must have laid the foundations for a stable family life. now, i came across with a man who didn't share the same idea. we got married with much preparations. then, i just promised to myself that i will give myself at least two years in order to be prepared for the coming of my first baby. also, it didn't happen that way. life steadily became miserable for me. for i married an irresponsible person.

go ahead, keep on pursuing your plan at stabilizing first before having that baby. that is a very correct, a very right way to start out with family life. good luck and may life keep on smiling at you and plans as you carry them out to reality.

Mostly here in my place get married because they are pregnant i think almost 90 percent, if i am not mistaken. I usually ask this question to all of my friends before they get married and 9 out of 10 says yes they are pregnant that is why they get married but if they are not pregnant i dont think they will. I have only one friend who is not pregnant when she get married and later discover she has a problem about her health in getting pregnant up to now. I think it is a trend today having a baby first before tieng a knot, but still if possible i dont want to get married because i am pregrant but i want to get married because i love the person.

Good for you and that's really the way it should be. However it's not like that for alot of people. Alot of people marry early because they've rushed everything else too. Don't worry about it and be proud to smile and say your just getting married because your in love.

I think all newly weds and haven't conceive yet are also victims of that constant question. It wouldn't stop until you get pregnant. There are always people who would try to ask questions that you doesn't like to hear or comments that you would like to avoid. Just be use to it from we can't stop people for asking that question.

i got married the same month as you did but differ in year, it was 2006. its a normal thing that people will expect you to be pregnant few months after the wedding, and some would think that you got married because you are pregnant. like me, my mother and sister keep on asking me every month if im pregnant. they only stop when i got pregnant which is 3 months after the wedding. i would suggests that dont get pressured by people if you are not yet ready to get pregnant. take you time until both of you are ready. its another big responsibility to take on.

I think those questions are like topic starters, you should not let it bother you that much. Its also a good opportunity for you to start a conversation of how you want to be stable first before you have a baby. You might even end up enlightening your friends of the importance of financial stability.