wasn't invited to my mother's b-day
By poppoppop111
@poppoppop111 (5731)
Canada
January 5, 2009 4:53pm CST
my mother wanted my daughter over night and she told me to drop her off at my grandmother's and she'd pick her up from there. i was told at 6 but i got there at 5 so i could spend time with my grandma. anyway apperently i wasn't suposed to show up that early. cars were lined up down the street. i walk in and a tone of relatives are there. i asked 3 times what was going on and no one would look at me or talk to me. the next day when my daughter came back home i asked her what was going on and she said it was grandma's b-day party. i can't beleive they invited my kid and not me. i don't understand why they keep doing this to me
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@cathya (704)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
ohhh am sorry,
well if thats the case indeed you should not deprive your daughter for having close relationship with you mom and as daughter to your mom, maybe its about time to talk her about her should i say unfair treatment on you.
good luck and god bless.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I don't know what to tell you. I want to say to not allow your child over to see her grandma, but that would be cruel to your child as well as being pay back to your mom. I would confront them though, if they can't tell you then the best thing to do is to confront them. Let them know that what they are doing isn't right, and is teaching your child that mommy is stupid, or mommy can't come over because grandma and mommy are fighting.. not good things to teach your child, and it's not your fault either.
I hope you get this straightened out.
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
5 Jan 09
this has been gong on since i was little, they've never treated me like part of the family and have never invited me to family things. i just don't get it. anyway i have confronted them before and it never solves anything. i've always wanted to be close to my family but it will never happen but i don't want my daughter to go through what i did so now that they want a relationship with her and treat her better then they ever did me i'm not going to stop them from having a relatioship i know how lonesome it is to not have family and i want to give her everything that i didn't have
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I know this must be a tough decision. I wasn't exactly on the 'in' with my cousins and sister, the only person I was on the 'in' with was my brother, I guess you could say. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but understand why your letting your daughter go see your family.
I appreciate the BR.
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
5 Jan 09
That is weird, and it is almost as if they knew you would show up and find out about it. Because if you are invited to your grandmother's house to drop off your child, they really should know that you would want to spend time with your grandmother and the odds are that you will show up early.
I wished I could give you some good advice on how to handle this situation. But the only thing I can say is to just talk to your friends about it (like us here at myLot) and don't discuss it within the family. Then it will probably eat them up inside because they will wonder what you are thinking. If you don't discuss it with any of the family, it is not likely to get back to them how much they hurt you. Then they will most likely figure out that they are doing wrong in the long run.
Good luck to you and may the future hold the best!
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
5 Jan 09
my graqnma knew i was angry when i got there. she usually doesn't treat me like that. she is the only person in my family that i get along with. anyway i was going to talk to her but then found out she has cancer and then was in the hospital for the last couple of weeks so i thought there are better things to worry about so i decided not to bring it up with her. it just really hurt me cause it was at her house and she has never treated me like that before. i'm used to that from my mom but not her
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
7 Jan 09
That is just terrible. After all I have been reading about your mother in the last few posts I have read of yours I kind of wonder why you bother with her at all. Not to seem harsh, but she does not seem like the type of person I would want in my life. I would especially not want my child exposed to her nonsense.
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