Do you act when...

I try to tolerate the person for the sake of the group and often times i would not say anything because i don't want an argument. Although i think people can see when i'm angry or unhappy even though i don't intentionally express it. But once i was so pissed with this person's rudeness and way of speaking that i thought why should i suffer this and immediately left the group. I rarely do this because it comes across as being emo but for that one time i felt relieved and satisfied that i, for once, do something for myself.

I definitely can zip it when I feel the situation calls for it but I can't do it long term. If we're out with friends or something like that and there's someone there I don't like or someone has made me mad then I have no problem acting like everything's A OK for the evening. Even if for no other reason than to save myself from looking silly in public. But if I have to be around someone I can't stand every day then I have a much harder time not showing it. Eventually I just become very quiet and try my best to keep to myself. And then I get really, really grumpy!

Oh yeah I do it a lot of times. I'm a person that would never show my emotions. People would never know when I'm angry, never. This one time I was at my friend's house. To tell you the truth that boy had some problems. And I mean mentally. I was doing something. And he just watched me and hit me. Hard enough for me to feel it. If I did not know how to take a blow I would have gotten hurt. I got so angry. I was about to do him something really really bad. But I just stopped in my tracks and did nothing and pretended everything was normal. I felt a little sorry for him. Later on he can and apologized. I was so happy that I did not do anything because even though I'm a white belt he would have been hurt a good bit. Thank you God for giving me patience and strength with these things.

I sometimes act like that, pretending nothing's wrong. But most people say that my face fail me because my eyes are like shooting daggers. I don't know, they say my face is too expressive but now I'm trying to keep a straight face. Even though I can't manage to keep a straight face, I try to stay calm. But when I know that confronting the person who pissed me off is worth doing, I will approach him. So that the person won't mess with me next time.

Anymore you too cuz there are problems that cant be fixed anymore. So why not just keeo it to urself especially if they have been told before what the problem is and it never changes why say anything about it. They should know as many times that they have been told til u just quit telling them. Then they get mad because u wont talk to them about the problems u have why talk when it wont change. I dont want to kill the other party or nothing like that, that would be wrong it just takes what trust or friendship u thought u had gone.

Hi there, I wish at was better at doing this, but I am really bad at hiding how I feel. Even if I try really hard, people always figure out how I really feel mainly through my face. It's not like I walk around with a screwed up face, I think its just kind of portrayed in my eyes and they sort of give it away. It can slow things down though - like you said, sometimes its nice to just get on with stuff, rather than someone asking what's wrong every 10 minutes!

It depends on the situation. Most of the time I will try to forgive the person and work with them how ever I need too. Especially while at work. But there have been times no matter how hard I try I cannot do this with some people, and actually have even tried to act Friendly again to often be snubbed again, or for them to never choose to want to have anything to do with me again. For me, I find the attitude of Forgive, Forget, and move on to be the best thing in life all around.

unfortunatly, I can actually say I do it all the time. I know I shouldn't and it's actually bad for my health but it's in my personality. I'm just not an assertive or aggrevice person.

For me it really depends upon the situation and who I am angry with, sometimes even why I am angry. I tend to be very pragmatic, somewhat analytical even about my own feelings. In work situations I will usually not react, even when something peeves me. I will think about the "whys". If after consideration I realize that my original reaction was justified I will go and discuss it with whoever caused the problem. Depending on who that person is will modify my approach. With personal issues, friends / family, it is of course different. I still don't usually react immediately. It makes most people close to me quite crazy. Usually I just walk away. It isn't so much that I am "acting" as I refuse to give in to emotional demonstrations, usually.

You always need to control your emotions in front of the people. You can never show your real self all the time in front of everyone. It may create a lot of problems for everyone emotionally.

Well, I don't hide behind a mask of niceness when in reality I am not a nice person at all. In fact, I hardly mince my words and I can totally insult a person with sacarsm when I get pissed off with them. I do not plaster on a smile and still be nice to a person that I am pissed off with as I don't believe in acting like someone that I am not. I find it hard to do that. Sure I can smile at a person even though I am angry with them. However, I will just hide behind insults with sacarsm that undermines a person's IQ. Some people who are dense will not get the hint that I am in fact insulting them, some faster and smarter people will. But they cannot react with angry words to me or shout at me as I had not done all that. My friends nicknamed me that I am fantastically blunt, to which this is something that I am proud of. If you can take me on, then fine, we will engage in a battle of wits. If you can't, then too bad, I will just move on. Lol. But not to worry, I am not that sort of person to react to someone who I am pissed with, with angry words and a shouting match. Rather, I will outwit the person and have a play with words. This also test a person's IQ. My friends say that a flash of anger will enter my eyes when I am angry but it will be gone in a flash, and after which, sacarsm will puncture every single words that is uttered out of my mouth. However, nobody will know if I am angry or what because I am just deathly calm. Hehe. Dangerous me. Lol. Well, if you could mask your feelings and carry on as if nothing had happened, that is good for you. Different people has different styles of handling matters, and no one would say that yours is wrong and mine is right. To each our own, right? =D Thanks for posting this discussion! Cheers and happy mylotting!

Unfortunately acting is not my speciality! LOL If someone offends me or makes me mad I have no problem letting them know it. The only good thing is I'm not overly sensitive so I don't get upset very often but when I do I gaurantee someone is going to know about it!