The most expensive gift for kids - Are we listening to kids patiently?  

hello mylotter,
everybody loves their children ....but the time they spend with their children differs....i am a new mom....so i dont go to work due to take care of my baby....i love to work...but my baby is more important than my job....children need our attention....so it is important to show our love and affection towards them...we can change their behavioural problems through showing our loveinstead of spanking them...love is a great medicine for every thing...working women are unlucky to spend their time with their kids...you cant get their childhood back...so try to be with your kids always...happy mylotting...

I thik the most expensive gift you could give any child would be your time. You are so right. Parents today seem to be so short tempered with the hussle and bussle of everyday life that thy forget that the kids are people too and deserve the respect and concern like anyone else. If it any wonder the kids stop communicating with the parents when all they hear is "not now" "cant you see I'm bsy" and other such words. They will pull away more and more as these things are placed on them and eventually they won't talk to you at all. If your going to have children then treat them like you would any other person. Listen to what they have to say and give them guidance when they head down the wrong road. If everyone would treat thir own children as they themselves would like to be treated this would be a much happier and rewarding world.

First off, I disagree that we need piles of gifts to show our love to our children. I think that your posting is perfect proof that your time is more preferable to children than your money or gifts. I think if parents would take a minute to look at their kids. Stop worrying about material things and worry more about what your kids are doing thinking and feeling. I wish that more people would do this.

This is a nice discussion and I agree with it a lot. I am not a parent yet, but watching my parents I feel that sometimes, I wonder who they are also. They are desperate to want to know who we are at times, yet we were really never given the chance and the chance of knowing who they are also.

Hi friend zhuhuifen46, I have two kids. one girl of 11 and a boy of 6+. I am facing the same problem. I am also not listening to the kids, as you have suggested, going at their level. That is a big problem and no gift can be its equivalent.
Thanks for your post on the matter. We should try to be at their level and be a true listener whom kids can take seriously to narrate their story. They should feel like opening up their mind to us, the parents. And it is real difficult to be so.
i must try now to be so.
Thanks again