being protective  

im sorry of ur dilemma. But i would set her down and tell her u r 26 and u r capable making decisions that effect ur life. Then i would say i dont want u out of my life but just some space to make my decisions the best of ur ability and if u need help u can help if u ask for it. She has to know there is a limit to what needs to be done and not she needs to do it is ur life now stand up to her in very loving way.

gosh really? i cant imagine ganda that you;ve experienced that kind of thing huh.. as in i never knew. LOL.. i myself didnt experience that one, because i used to live by my own, i am away from my parent or from my mom since i dont have a dad, instead a step dad and i hate him sooooo much! well forget about him.
so when i was in grade 5, me and my mom decided that i have to work and study at the same time. 1st reason i stay away from our home because of my step dad, 2nd i am thinking that my mom cant afford to support us financially.

so since then, i am used to stay by my own.. work and study.. strive hard, decide for my worn, everything,,.

A very good topic for discussion. While showing your understanding for her heart and soul love and care for you, you might as well talk with your mom at an early date.

What she has been doing is typically the old way of love to the children. It is likely to quench your potential, and damage your future. When mom is providing material support, she forgets to fulfil your essential need for self esteem. The best way of education is to let you learn through discoveries. Instead of telling you what to do, how to do, and pointing out your faults and mistakes from time to time, she should have left you in a free environment and atmosphere to grow up from experience and lessons. She needs just to stay aside, giving messages of enhanced conviction and strength, expressing recognition and congratulation for the least progress you are making on the way planned and designed by yourself.

That is what I have learned from the happening between my son and me, though rather late, at least we made it, and good for all.

I can understand your mother's fears and, yes, she is very over protective of you. Saying that I understand her fears does not mean that I agree with them or with the way she is treating you. You ARE a grown woman and you do have the right to live your own life but you've already tried talking to her and, as you have said, it did no good. Your only option at this point is to start doing what you want to do and let her complain about it. Reassure her that you will be okay...start small and slowly...and eventually she will accept that you have your own life to live and things will get better. Good luck.

It's good to have a mother that loves you and wanted to do things for you but these days, a lady at 26 should be doing her own. I hope that you told your mother about her actions and that you had a heart-to-heart talk about these things. You don't need to rebel to your mother because that is not good for you and your mother. Just communicate and tell her what you have in your heart! So, can I invite you somewhere? I will ask your mother, ha ha ha!

I can't think of anything other than talking to her heart-to-heart about it all. She probably has a lot of things she needs to come to terms with and this needs to happen before you can both heal and move on.

Sometime when all the heart to heart talks go awry, you just have to move out. That will give you the opportunity to experience life, make your own decisions and live the consequences. As you do that though, don't exclude your mother! Have "dates" with her when you talk with her about what's going on and what mistakes you've made.

I always loved my mother until I had lived away from her for a while then ended out back under her roof. She became a lot more overbearing and I grew a lot more independent which made for a bad combination. Now that I'm on my own again, we're back to being great friends.

i see your headache. i think, try to tell her that you are grown up now and is able to take care of yourself, be gentle and nice when telling her so she dont feel the pain like rejection or some kind. convince her, tell her not to worry anymore for to keep her health. and tell her you is time for you to take care of her instead. just tell her in a good way. i thiink things would go fine with that. just dont make it into an argument or something huge. good luck for you.. hope my tips help.

I am a parent myself and I understand where your mom is coming from. But I also understand your point. Your mom's over-protection really kills. So better talk to her about it. Especially now that you are already a grown up lady. She will surely understand.

I guess the best thing you can do is to talk to your mom about it, a heart-to-heart talk will do.. explain to her how you really feel, i'm sure your mom would understand.. i can't blame your mom for being so over protective because you're the youngest in the family.. but i'm not saying that she's right..