would you rather get $ or a gift?  

I would rather get the money if they are unsure of what to get for me. But, I would love the gift because it may be special of what they want to give to me. I would cherish both. It is something.. I could not be selfish.. I would be happy to know that they think of me in a nice way to even get me something..

I would want the gift. Gifts seem much more personal and special. Sometimes people don't really know what to get so they have to give money or a giftcard, which is fine. I hate giving them and only do so if the person is really picky or if I haven't been able to see them in awhile and don't know what they would like, such as family during Christmas and such. I wouldn't mind giving money as a gift if they are having a hard time and need help, though. That's a different situation.

I would rather have a gift. It means the person actually put some thought into it when getting it for me. Money is always nice but it's not as personal. The only time I give money for a gift is for graduations.

Well it is better to tell everyone the truth.. Also, I think it is even more convenient for you, since you can spend more time in search of gifts for other family members ;) It is really hard to guess what is on other person mind, isn't it? What if she doesn't actually need your gift but is in difficult financial situation? If you cherish your sister-in-law, the only thing you want is to make her feel happy.
I also try to tell everyone what I would like to have for my birthday, Christmas or whatever.. It does not mean that I do not accept gifts, which are not included on my list =P And I am happy to receive money as well as gifts.

I would never tell someone what to give me as a gift or whether to give money or a gift...That should be left up to the individual who is doing the giving. The thought is what counts and I would be happy if someone thought enough of me to give me anything at all.

Well my family knows I'm saving for my trip which is going to happen the 2nd week of May. So for Christmas I asked for money. My birthday is in April and guess what I want? Money. I'm going to see the Chin terra cotta statues and the King Tut exhibit in Atlanta Georgia.

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I would like to recieve money because I can spend it in whatever I what..and when it comes to gifts I am very picky... and for that reason sometimes I don´t like the gifts I get

I would want the gift. I think that the gift is more personal and represents the relationship you have with that person. Money and Gift Cards show that you don't know each other very well or that the person is very picky. I go out of my way looking for the perfect gift so that i can give someone that perfect gift. That will put a smile on their face.

hello miccant

no i would not ask somebody for just money for my gift. i would rather have a gift from somebody than have any money. and if you can't afford to buy me a gift, then do not worry about getting me anything. i like gifts and gift cards. it doesn't matter to me what that i recieve. and i also enjoy giving gifts out as well as getting gift cards and gas cards as gifts. if i know the person who that i am buying a gift for, i will buy them a gift but if i do not know the person who that i am buying a gift for all that well, then i will purchase a gas card or a gift card for them to use. one of my brother-in-laws each year loves to recieve a Barnes and Noble's book gift card so that he can go to the book store himself and purchase what kind of a book that he wants to read.

take care and have a beautiful afternoon.

Ugh! That is extremely, extremely, tacky of her to do that. Sounds like she has no manners at all. It's one thing for the gift giver to ask what do you want but it's another thing to outright demand money. If I got her email I certainly wouldn't give someone so ungrateful anything at all except for maybe a card. Yes I would personally prefer money but I would never tell them and I would appreciate any gift I was given. If she is so desperate for money she needs to make sure the person includes a gift receipt then she can get the cash if she wants. Does your SIL when giving gifts only give cash?