How do you pack and move?
@royal52gens (5488)
United States
February 15, 2009 10:21am CST
While going through the pain and process of a divorce, I have come to a point where I need to pack and move in order to survive. I have no job. I can not find a job. I am discouraged, depressed and tired. My family has told me to sell everything, pack and move home. They are welcoming me home. They can help me to heal. My thoughts are swirling. My children don't want to move as they are close to graduating with their classmates. I am not sure I can stay here long enough for that to occur. I would like to but I don't think I can. It is painful to be here any more. I need the comfort of my family.
I sit here looking at my home and the things that are in it. I have lived here for 15 years. This was my dream home. This is where I wanted to retire. But how do I pack up my life? What do I take and what do I leave behind? I can't take everything. That is reality. I can only take what is most valuable and most important. I can only take what will fit into a rental truck.
When you are packing and moving, how do you do it? Do you make a list? Do you have a plan of sorts?
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7 responses
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I feel your pain, and know that you are going through a rough time. I can only imagine how hard it must be on you. I think that since your children are nearing finishing school, for their sake you should stay a little longer.
Children can be rather rebellious, and taking them away now may not be a good thing.
If you can just hold on a little longer until the school year ends, that may be a good thing. In the interim, get your thoughts together and really plan your move. That will give you a chance to sort things out as to what you need to take with you and what can be left behind.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
Take care
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
20 Feb 09
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and well wishes. It is not a good time in my life. I will miss my friends but I welcome the opportunity to heal my heart, soul and mind. I pray God will watch over me during this time and guide me in my future.
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@daneg33 (1128)
• Canada
15 Feb 09
Sorry to hear you are going through such a tough time.
Is it possible for your kids to stay at the home or in that town with friends until they finish school? If I were packing up to leave, I would not take big furniture or appliances. Those things can always be replaced. Go through your clothes and get rid of anything you have not worn in the last 2 - 3 years. Gather everything you want to take and list it. Look through the list and decide what you cannot live without. Keep only those things, get rid of the rest. It may seem important now, but in the grand scheme of things, you don't need everything. If you really need to take more than you can fit into a moving truck, maybe you can put it into short term storage with friends. The important thing is that you get home as soon as possible to be with your family. I wish you luck and strength.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
15 Feb 09
Thank you for sharing your ideas. You are saying what a few other people have told me. Thank you for wishing me well.
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@cher913 (25781)
• Canada
15 Feb 09
it must be very hard. my dad passed away recently and we are doing the same thing and probably will be helping my mom pack and move in the near future (she is not sure if she can afford to stay in their house) so i sort of know what you are going through. its not easy in either case. you are in mourning of sorts as well. hugs
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
15 Feb 09
You are right. I am mourning the loss of so much. Thank you for helping to find a word for the feelings.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Hello Sweets
I haven't moved in over 20 years...
In Sept.2007 when I discovered my x
was having an affair for over 13 years
I met him at the door when he came home
I said"OUT"
He has not spent one night here since
This is my home..I won't be pushed out.
My prayers are with you Hon..I know how hard this must be.
xoxoxoxoxo
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Good for you. I wish I could do the same. I don't want to move or lose my home. Sadly, I don't have a job and have been unable to find a job. That means I can not afford my home or the bills that come with it. So I have to make some tough choices. I can only take with me the things that are the most important.
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
19 Mar 09
Ray, you would not believe how much stuff I have simply thrown away. It is amazing how much I have gathered over the past 13 years of living in this house. Wow!!
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Mar 09
I've never had to pack and move because of a divorce (yet). How do you divide up certain things, like vacation pics? I hate the thought. Hope you get through all of that OK.
But as far as moving in general, I'm not that organized but basically I do three main things:
1. yard sale, donate or trash everything I don't want to take (or can't take)
2. pack up the non-essentials first
3. then pack everything else
Our last move we had to be in an apartment for a couple of months before moving into our new house, so we also got a storage space and kept the non-essentials there temporarily.
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
1 Apr 09
Those are some great ideas. Thank you for sharing with me. I am moving 2,000 miles so a storage space is not an option. At least not here. And when I get where I am going, I will need to conserve my money. My son has room to store some of my things. Thank you for saying you think I am organized. I don't always feel like I am organized. LOL
Dividing things is hard. I have to set the emotions off to the side, look at the item and make a decision. It is either mine, his, or one of the kids. Some things are easy to say "Oh, that should go to ...." Other things are more difficult. I set those items off to the side and think about it before making a decision. Then I go back to the items and try again.
@rocketsky (1013)
• China
15 Apr 09
dont be sad life got to move in your life .
happy things will come to you later:)
something sad wont kill you :)
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I am looking forward to moving. It will provide me with a fresh start. I am happy to report my packing is progressing quite nicely. I have shipped a lot already. So many of my most precious items are already where I am going.
I have to walk this path to grow as a person. My daughter just got back from a visit. She has gone to the school she will be attending. She met the principals and staff. She walked through the building and met some of the students. She is also looking forward to a new start.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Sorry to hear that you have to pack and move due to a Divorce. I am sure this is a really hard time for you and your children, and I am wishing you the Best thru this as well. I do know this is a hard time but you will get thru it. But as for what to take I would think you need to take the things that really mean the most to you and your kids first, and then go from there. A lot of material things such as Furniture etc. can be replaced, but other types of memories cannot, so you might need to decide which is easier to replace in the future, and then go from there. Wishing you the Best.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Yes, furniture is easily replaced. There are some things that can not be replaced. I will keep your advice in mind. Thank you.
