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myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children 3 years ago

Have you ever dealt with children who love to ask why?
So much so it really leaves you with no answers and you get irritated.

Like for example:
"Why is the sky blue?"
"Because of the light reflecting on the earth which give the sky a natural blue hue"
"Why does the light reflect on earth?"
"Because the sun shines on it"
"Why is does the sun shine?"
"Because the sun is a bright start that like a fire in the sky"
"Why is the sun like a fire?"
"Because of the gases that it is made up of"
"Why is there gases in the sun?"
"Because there are gases..."
"Why?"
"Because that is the way the sun is"
"Why?"
"I don't know already"
"Why?"
"I never studied it before"
"Why?"
"Arggghhhh~~~!"


The never ending barrage of whys can really drive you nuts some times.
And when you look at them, they some times do it just to irk you cos they ran out of questions to ask. So asking why seems to be the only way to keep you offering more information to them. Whether they understand them or not is another matter altogether.

So, parents out there, how do you deal with an inquisitive child that refuses to stop asking why?


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1. myLot reputation of 94/100. learn2earn (16928)   ranked 558 out of 2,147 in children   3 years ago

When I was a child, with innocence in my heart and mind, I used to ask so many questions to my parents. And they never get irritated against me. They love to answer my "why's" of life. But now that I am a parent, how I wish that I am like my parents. I can't answer some of the questions and I get irritated. Oh, poor me. May God grant me more patience, mercy, love, and compassion!lol


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

Yeah, they can be a handful sometimes. But they are a joy to be with. Especially when they are in a good mood and are inquisitive.
Problems comes when they go into the why-why-why mode.
What do you do when you run out of answers to their whys?

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2. myLot reputation of 100/100. JenInTN (10140)   ranked 327 out of 2,147 in children   3 years ago

I just answer them. It's how they learn. Not only learn what they are asking but the reactions to the ones they question. They learn patience and tolerance by your reactions to them.It's a stage most children go through at a certain age and they are registering everything. I like talking to kids..they are funny and cute. I appreciate their innocence.


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

Yeah... I love talking to kids too!
Their responses are so genuine. And so, well, innocent.

It is when they get into one of their why-why-why sessions that I always find difficult to get out of. Cos at one point in the why-why-whys, I will run out of answers. It is when I run out of answers that I am stuck at how to get out of it. lol

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3. myLot reputation of 97/100. 34momma (5912)   ranked 31 out of 2,147 in children   3 years ago

LOL LOL! as a mother of three i so so so understand this whole stage in a childs life. all of my children did the whole why why why thing. my 4 year old little girl is there now. and everything is why why why!! what i do is just try and be as honest as I can. I give her answers that a 4 year old can understand. I don't give answers to shut her up. and if she keeps asking why i will continue to answer her until i really just don't know....

yeah it can be a bit much sometimes, but i rather her ask me questions the questions then trying to figure things out on her own or ask other children. because trust me if you don't answer them, that is what they do. they will feel like they can't come to you. i am so blessed that my two older boys always come to me. no matter what the subject is. they know i am going to be honest with them and not judge nor lie


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

I too try to answer as many of those questions as I can. It is when I ran out of answers, that is where I got stuck at getting out of the why-why-why session.

So how do you get out of these why-why-why sessions at the point where you ran out of answers?


myLot reputation of 97/100. 34momma (5912)   ranked 31 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

by just being totally honest and saying i really don't know honey, but if i find out i will be sure to give you the answer. nice and simple and right to the point, and most of all honest


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

And they will just let it go like that?
What if they continue to ask why?
What would you do then? confused

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4. myLot reputation of 92/100. zandi458 (11483)   ranked 42 out of 2,147 in children   3 years ago

Kids are naturally inquisitive and as a parent it is our duty to satisfy their curiosities. It is only when a child doesn't ask and keeps to himself all the time that we become worried. A curious child shows his intelligence and alertness. It is time where parents need to focus on what kind of things they normally ask as this will determine his interest and career in life. When my son was about 5 years old he normally ask questions more to science and nature like 'why does the moon follows us everywhere we go? Can we inject a dead person and bring him back to life? Why is 1 + 1 equals to two? These are some of the questions that brought me to think that he is more to science and from there I encouraged his interest and bought more books related to his interest. I was not wrong. He pursued his interest and career in science related field as he is now a geo-phycist. While another son who when he was a little boy always counting coins and putting them in piggy banks. He is now a banker. We as parents have to nurture their curiosities and give encouragement where we can. We are their best teacher in life.


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

I totally agree with you that we are their best teachers in life.
The observation part is new to me. I will have to pay attention more to the kids that are interact with. Never knew that they'd be showing their inclinations to any subject as such a young age.

Thanks for the mention. lol

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5. myLot reputation of 88/100. janisvg18 (136)   3 years ago

i've experienced that form a friend's daughter. at first it's cute and funny.
then as i spent more time with her, she asked more question... it got more irritating. i really want to shut her up... but i can't! i'm a guest! i was making this fake smile... hahaha! i think i have no patience in that area. hihihi


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

I am always happy when kids ask lots of questions. It is when I run out of answers that I feel that I am in a predicament.
lollollol

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6. wenwenwang (89)   3 years ago

I have no patience to answer so much why to children. When I was a child, I would like to look for answer by myself but not ask parents or teachers.

I will be crazy if children ask me so much questions. I think I never try a job regarding children.

Fortunately, my boyfriend have a lot of patience and he would take the burden to answer our baby's ten thousands of why questions, I think. Wow!


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

Trust me, no matter how patient a parent is, he or she will run out of answers to the endless whys that children have.
And before you know it, your future husband may be going "I dunno, go ask your mother" and direct them to you! lol

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7. myLot reputation of 95/100. zweeb82 (1894)   ranked 443 out of 2,147 in children   3 years ago

HahalolI don't have children yet so I'm not faced with all the whys you have listed, hahalolBut honestly, I would love a child to ask me things & all the whys providing he's not there to irk me of course, not the nonsensical whys but the plain attitude of wanting to learn should never be shut off


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

I too have not have kids of my own yet.
Just that, of late, I have been interacting with a lot of kids.
From those that take the same bus on the commute to work to the ones that my parents are babysitting.

So I find it interesting to be so exposed to them.
Their genuine responses and their inquisitive questions are always welcomed.
Problem is, when I get into one of those why-why-why session, I find it tough to say no to a kid, but I get stuck when I run out of answers to their incessant whys.
lollollol


myLot reputation of 95/100. zweeb82 (1894)   ranked 443 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

HahalolI understand the incessant why-why0why-why X1000, hahalolBut like you, I do love kids with their inquisitive questions & their innocencehappy

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8. myLot reputation of 69/100. bodysmurf (230)   3 years ago

Just remember that we were kids once also and curious. Be grateful that this children's minds have developed NORMALLY that they are not autistic or retarded or slow in any way. Make a game out of it and find your own inner child and explore the wonders of life through the eyes of these children. It's not that serious, babe.


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

Ah... a good suggestion indeed my friend.
Try to bring out the kid in us and learn all over again.
To enjoy the purity and innocence of those times when were kids.
lollollol

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9. myLot reputation of 97/100. chookie1971 (1733)   ranked 198 out of 2,147 in children   3 years ago

That is so annoying. I didn't get that from one of my kids but I did get it from the second kid.

She is still annoying but at least it is not the why questions so much. Even though she still asks them. These are the questions that constantly annoy me and she is 9.
What's for dinner?
what time is it?
can I have a look?
can I go to the shop with you?
Can I come?
Can I have icecream?
can I have lollies?
can I have a soft drink?
Can I this and that.

The what questions and the can I questions. And she asks so many questions all day. I don't know who to deal with it any other way except for don't ask questions that does not concern you.


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

The worst thing that can happen is they start off with a what and a can-i question. And then when you give them the answer and a reason, they will start to ask why.
And the cycle will just begin with no end in sight! lol

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10. myLot reputation of 97/100. maxilimian (1127)   3 years ago

LOL! lol It's look like a joke for me hehe sorry .. well it's really annoying questions, especially if it is not children (an adult) hehe altough i'm not yet married, if i'm facing it, then i will said later, one day you will know the answer by yourself so i'm not answer you for the question you ask ... lol
hoping the children stop questioning again, if they can't stop, i will make a silence


myLot reputation of 99/100. ahgong (3967)   ranked 47 out of 2,147 in children  3 years ago

That may work for some kids. But not all of them will be satisfied with such an answer. And they will go to a single worded question instead.
"Why?"
"Why ah yee, why?"
...
and it can go on if the child is persistent! lol


myLot reputation of 97/100. maxilimian (1127)  3 years ago

waw, tough kids lol lol then answer it : "That's why" that's why and that's why without explaining anything to them lol, i think just one explanation is enough, if they keeps asking why, the rest answer is that's why lol

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