you are free..?? u are free..??
By drdivu
@drdivu (1011)
India
March 21, 2009 3:16pm CST
all the time my boyfriend keeps telling me that u free to marry anyone..u are free to date anyone else..u are free to go out with mr.right if u so feel..i have discussed earlier too about my relationship with him..in part 1 and part2 of my story..well, now i told him that we wil be friends..to this he said that his friends ahve told him that I wil go away one day as HE DOES NOT BEHAVE PROPERLY WITH ME...also that he can wait if i want to come back..but he says that he can never make me feel special at all either..
2ndly, he says that he cant talk to me as friend cos he does not talk to friends for long..so he kept down the phone..
he also says that i must have found someone in delhi..rather wen i was crying he said that my tears dont mean anything to him..he is prepared that i wil go one day..!!
wat to do in this case, other than leaving him..?? any particular way to act..?? Is he right in saying all this..??
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2 responses
@abanerji (1026)
• India
21 Mar 09
have you ever hinted him that you may have to leave him at some point of time, probably, when your parents get you married to someone else....? in this case, he is preparing himself to be away from you.
if this is not the case, then the thing is that you need to make him feel secured. you need to make him know how you feel about your relationship and how you feel about him. give him some time, listen to him. let him speak out his mind. understand him and then take a decission.
it is you who knows the person and it is you who has to decide about him.
now, when he says that your tears don't matter to him, then first of all stop sheding tears before him. you cnnot act weak. more important, if he really loves you then your he won't like to see you in tears.
somehow i feel, he is himself confused. cannot talk to you cause he does not talk to friends for long. what does that actually mean..?
he does not behave properly with you..? is it that he is too rough or harsh..? if this is so then i think you are getting into a wrong relationship.
@drdivu (1011)
• India
21 Mar 09
thanks so much for ur reply..i really needed someone at this hour to talk to.. pls read part 1 and 2 of my story if u get time as its difficult to post all here again in discussions that i have started..
its was that i was simply tellin him that even if my parents want me to get married in a year.. I WONT MARRY RATHER WAITFOR HIM.. to this he is saying all that..but pls read part 1 and 2..he loves me but is confused rather insecure because he never behaves properly with me..he neither aknowledges wat all i have done nor appreciates..i feel he suffers from inferiority complex which have tried to mend but in vain..
@1hopefulman (45111)
• Canada
23 Mar 09
Seems that your boyfriend doesn't want another friend, he wants a possible future wife. If you don't see yourself in that role, leave him and find someone that can fulfill your dreams. Don't hang on to someone just because you don't have better. It's either love or it's not. If you are not sure of your feelings leave him alone for a time and see where you want to go.
That's my opinion!
