Why do we all love approval? Is it a good thing?

No our need for approval is not a good thing. We strive for approval for the same reason we hate to get into trouble it's what we are taught. We aren't taught to think or do things for ourselves, Little Susie draws her mom a picture and thinking she's doing a great service and being a mom she tells Susie just how great it is, so Susie draws more pictures because mommy said they were great, not because she is taking her own pride in what she has done. Parents do it all the time, everything is either good or bad, not just left for our children to decide on their own and take pride or regret from it. Praising your child is not a bad thing but it can spiral out of control and the more that happens the more they will NEED that praise later in life from everyone.

When I was in school i never seek approval, i would go what I knew I could and I wouldn't do Anything I Knew I couldn't.And as for my peers, either they would try to get to know me or not.If they were cruel or teased me, I would wish them ill and I Stil do.Luckily I took classes I could do well in and I had many friends but I never seek apptoval. At work I get the job done but I Never do something so I can get a pat on the back, I do it because I xan see it needs to get done, period.I guess in my last loife I was a person who seekes approval because my mom told me that I was born with the attitude that " I don't care when you eat or sleep,I am doing it when I want to."and i haven't changed.

I think it's natural of people to seek approval because it is from approval that most people feel a degree of acceptance. Aside from that, I think most people are natural pleasers. We want to please other people and at the same time we want to be please. Approval can also be related to authority.

It may have its pros, it also has its cons. Anything done in excess is not good. In life, we can't live our lives with other people's approvals. One has to have his or her own strategy and his or her own decisions; at the same time one ought to be responsible for his or her actions.