Providing A Voice-Of-Reason To The Octomom Saga

On the other hand, it might be that having her kids would actually be helpful to her as a student as they brighten her life so much that she would be more inclined to be totally-alert when it comes to learning. They're her inspiration!

Your point is well-taken but, especially since she fired her valunteer nannies, just caring for so many very young children would probably not leave time or energy for other things. I should point out that I'm somewhat jealous. Cancer caused me to be unable to have children at a very young age, so I took in troubled kids -- 28 of them. I guess I understand her point and yours better than it seemed.

Don't worry! She and her kids aren't going nanny-less. She's just replacing some nannies she couldn't trust with some whom she can. Sorry to hear about your not being able to have kids, but it's great to know that you've gotten to be a second parent to so many kids who needed someone like you!

The older six of "those poor children" don't seem to be suffering any. In fact, they seem to be very happy and well-adjusted. With the help of qualified nannies (ones she has chosen with the help from the hospital where the babies were born), I believe that she'll do really well with the others as well. Imo, how family size is looked at is a trend. I was born in 1952 and am an only child. There were several well-meaning people who thought that I should have had at least one sibling so that I wouldn't grow up lonely and spoiled. As it turned out, I was no more lonely than any other child. Sometimes, I would have lonely moments, but I wasn't chronically lonely. As for spoiled...do we have to talk about that!?! Seriously, I don't think that it's the family size that matters so much as how loved the child/children in a family feel. One of my friends is the baby of a family of 13 kids. I had a best friend whom I met when I was in kindergarten and she was in first grade. She was one of five kids. When I first met her, she had both parents. However, it wasn't long before she only had her mom because her dad lost his battle with lung cancer. I believe that he had cancer even back when Patty and I first became friends, so it was her mom who minded the kids while taking care of her husband. The kids looked out for each other, too. Of course, she had supportive family and friends. So, even if you're married at one time, you don't know when your spouse might end up dying--or even taking off and being a deadbeat parent. When a household is reduced to one parent, does that automatically make the parent left behind unfit? Nadya has been parenting for seven years and hasn't proven herself to be unfit during this time, so I believe that she's just one of these people who don't get easily overwhelmed--as well as being somebody who isn't afraid to ask for help should she get stuck.

When it comes to who's buying the house, it's my guess that her dad's name is on it since he has developed a better credit line. She's probably making the payments. She didn't buy the house outright but is, instead, making monthly payments on it just like I do my TV. In the case of my TV, the family-owned business where I bought it have a financial company set up for those (such as myself) who can't afford to pay for a TV outright. Since the job of retired from GM management stacks up better than freelance writer/online journalist, my mom and I both have our names on my TV even though I make the monthly payments. If Nadya had a husband--even one who was out-of-work--there wouldn't have been this hostility towards her and all of those lies and half-truths spread about her. I know a woman who had over 30 kids and was never married--back when this was very uncommon. She was my high school English teacher, Lois Simmermon, who was also a minister at a Friends church. Of course, these were all foster kids--some of whom she ended up actually adopting. I'm not sure just what was the most number of kids she had living with her at one time. Anyway, she managed well and was still taking in kids when she was close to retirement age. She did all this while also dealing with being crippled. Nadya fired a poor match when it came to nannies, and she has hired ones whom she really trusts, likes, and gets along with.