Getting to the Top.  

As a child, I was never taught to have a competitive spirit. I guess some see that as a good thing and some see it as bad. All I know is that I would never want to step on anyone to make it to the top. I feel that there is plenty room at the top for everyone.

And Pose, some try to get to the top by riding on your coat tail instead of doing the work themselves.. they want to cash in on other people's hard work. Climb with me, but don't drag me down by clinging to me. Together we can walk forward, but pulling on me can only hold us both back.

absolutly right thinking of our own back people try to stop us to go high.but climb and pull them up besides is main funda to be a good achiever in life.by this there will not be pain of leaving our dearones and also we will get climb.
am i right

Yes, to me that's the real definition of real success.

yes you are right we can all help each other on the way up in life .. There is an old saying

BE CAREFULL WHO YOU TREAD ON AS YOU GO UP , YOU MAY MEET THEM ON THE WAY DOWN *

I am not sure. For one, do you really think that ‘we cannot get there by climbing over others’…I have seen so many people who trample others on their way, right there at the pinnacle of whatever they wanted. I will not talk about happiness coz I have never reached the top, I have always been on the sidewalk, I have never been able to keep pace…so I don’t really know whether it’s a happy feeling or a sad one to have reached the top! Maybe like sour grapes I can say that its not all that a clear conscience once you reach up there but do I know the feeling? NO. on the other hand I see people (my friends at school and colleges, colleagues in office) who have really made a huge success of themselves…should I dishonour their achievement by saying they trampled a few weaklings like myself on their journey? And about their longevity…well they are all the masters of the game and surviving alright…clawing each other and then applying the balm too…but clawing for sure, no charity there.
Life for me is over…at 36 I have it chalked out OK and resigned to whatever I am. Now my thoughts to you are should I teach my son compassion or clawing? He is only 9 and quite ‘compassionate’ if I may say so, or rather ‘stupid’ as per my assessment (as stupid as I exactly was in my time, always putting ‘friends’ before self and so on)…so should I let him as he is and learn by mistakes or should I try and mould him after the go-getters?

You are so very accurate in your perceptions on this. It is true that if we help others along the way and work together we are more apt to stay in those high places when we get there. More often than not, those that use less than admirable means to get to the top usually wind up back on the bottom or all alone at the top. In my opinion, if you wind up alone at the top, then you are not going to be any happier than when you were on the bottom. God Bless!