How would you handle this?
By shell2784
@shell2784 (752)
United States
April 22, 2009 7:42pm CST
Okay... I have a little bit of an overbearing mother in law. Both my fiance and I work for her and her husband. They take advantage of him and he doesn't stand up for himself b/c... well, it doesn't do anything. But I stand up for him, and myself obviously. We're both underpaid for the work that we do... we're with them all week long and then when it comes to the weekend to do fun things... I just don't want to be around her anymore.
I recently applied for 2 new jobs b/c I feel that if I get away from them for my 40 hours a week... I'll like her more. But it won't resolve all the problems and will probably cause new ones.
I know I left a lot of things up in the air question wise, so feel free to ask away!! I'll be online for a little while longer to address anything!
Thanks so much! I'm really in a bind and about to start ripping not only my hair out... but hers as well! lol
2 responses
@chigawaga (592)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
well i think that u both should sit down and talk with her and tell her exactly what is bothering u and ask her to stop.if she isnt gonna respect both your boundarys u should give her some kind of consequence that would be reasonable for u and your hubby and the situation.getten a differnet job away from her would be a good idea to good luck with that,it sucks cause shes your mother in law so u have to deal with her no matter what bu t maybe asken her in a nice respectful way but in a way were your firmly putten your point across might help.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I can honestly say there is no talking to this woman. I tried last September and it ended up in us screaming at each other and her throwing stuff and me quitting and everything else... she called and asked me to come back a few days later... but this is a "my way or the highway" kind of family.....
and she knows i won't take her crap b/c the entire family (on both her side and her husband's side) told me how proud they were of me for standing up to her the way I did and not letting her control everything the way she thinks she can. So I did get props from the rest of the family...
This whole thing is just really taking a toll on me, and in turn, my relationshipwith my fiance... and I dont want it to be that way.
@Aprillynn1 (225)
• United States
24 Apr 09
I am sure it is very difficult for your fiance to have the two most important woman in his life at each other's throats.
Does this woman like you??
You say is she controllin... Is she just trying to look out for your best interests, her son's, or her own??
@Aprillynn1 (225)
• United States
24 Apr 09
What exactly bothers you about your mother in law?? She nebbie? nosie? controlling? What's the deal?
But as far as the whole job thing goes.... I think breaking away from his family's biz would be your best bet. Perhaps your man should consider doing the same thing.
