which is important ?

There is a saying "The hand that rocks the cradled rule the world". In my opinion it is important for a mother to be with her children as much as possible especially during the formative years. You don't know what some one else is going to be teaching them when they have them for 8 hours or so a day.

Whatever you think would serve best your family you must go for it, if you think that raising your kids is much important than a job then you have to be honest with your sister-in-law over it, discuss it with your husband as well. If it is really necessary to work and help the family through that, you have no choice but to leave your kids to a nanny. (but of course you need to balance your time with work and family) I think however, you're choice is better because it is always best that moms are needed for their kids especially in their growing years.

It depends on the family income really. If the husband is earning OK to provide for a comfortable life for his wife and children, I don’t see any reason why the wife has to go out and earn. But if the husband’s earning is not enough, then the wife should try and add to it however possible. Also for some ladies, its nearly sacrilege to stay at home and waste education.

this is what you prefere to do, don't mind if other people has different opinion. i dont' like to stay at home, i always worked in my life and i'm lucky because my father-in-law follows my daughters all day. he takes them when the school end every day, he cooks for them, he helps them with homeworks. and at the moment it is important to earn money. unfortunately in Italy we do not have great opportunity, so if we have a good job, it is important to maintain it!

i agree with you because when your kids are little its when they say there first words, they take their first step and you should be there for them. Also your sister in law why isnt she working?end of the day there your kids and its your life do what is best for them in your eyes.

You are right. Staying at home to look after the kids is important, especially during their growing stage. And if they are below 12 years old, they are still in their learning stage, parents' guidance is very important. In this case, staying at home and spend more time with your kids, you can also establish a closer relationship with them. Once you miss this stage, there is no turning back. I think you have made the right choice. That is my personally opinion.

Do what you think is right and more important to you. If you think that its important to stay at home and watch the growing stage of your children, then do it. Children growing stage is important as children grow fast. I don't think I want to miss that too.