Please let me stay in care.  

you can be the best parent no doubt, but when your kids don't get the correct treatment they are looking for then they would turn to help themselves. if you were to live in a country area where people are very poor and have little responsibility then you would see how the children in those community grow up. it all starts from the period before birth, studies show that what ever a mother do during the period of pregnancy that is passed on to the child. they only way to correct they wrong things that was passed on to that individual is to guide the individual from a small age. if you were to show a child a battery and tell him that it's a bomb them that kid would always look at the battery as a bomb until he comes to understand what that device is. so what the individual you are talking about is going through is just lack of good guidance from toddler period. what ever wrong she does she would be punished for that in her own way, no one should punish her.

It is really very good if we talk about care that we have to be in care ..care is best to give to a child or if u do it for urself..Care is the only thgong in which u can stay with fresh mind...Be in care

she is getting all the attition now as before she had to share it with her brothes and sisters and she was gealous she caused trouble to get attition.Some kids are just trouble when they don't get everything they want.Her mother is better off with her where she is maybe someday she will be sorry for treating her mother this way.

Yes this is a strange world we live in, many of us who are over 30 yrs old can probably remember how different it was when we were growing up, no matter how bad we tried to act or thought we were, we still got punished for what we did, and I don't think we were spoilt rotten like the kids these days are, its such a different time now. Nowadays people can get in trouble for spanking their kids I myself don't see anything wrong with it, I got it when I was younger and I think I turned out pretty good, you can see how very different this younger generation is today. I don't think the girl should of gotten taken away, maybe in a different way, like send her to a girls home for awhile if she didn't want to listen to her mother, then maybe after being there awhile, she might realize that being at home with mom wasn't so bad after all.

hi suzzy, hope u are doing well. u are so right we live in a very strange world. i have alot of compassion for the mother of that ungrateful girl. that girl needs a good a$$ whipping. her true colors will come out the first time the foster mom crosses her. have a nice weekend. jo

her daugher is a selfish brat, if i were her mother i would leave her in care, because sooner or later this little fink will start to misbehave and the foster parent will then see her for what a selfish little (beep) she really is, kids get away with way too much these days, her daughter is only wanting to stay in care because she's getting what she wants, when this stops i can see this one doing to her foster mother what she done to her own mother, this kids need to be knocked down a peg or 2, sometimes in life our parents cannot give uus everything we wanted, now if this girl goes to another home, who's to say that her foster parents won't cave into her demands, there will come a day when this kid will relaise that not everything in life it free...she needs to stop acting like a brat and grow up, this will not last forever, she is lucky to have landed on her feet because she could have been put somewhere where the foster parents were strict, i wonder if she would have liked to have stayed if the foster parents were strict, she would have been home in a heartbeat...this kid will have kids of her own when she is older, so who knows, her kid could turn out just like her then she will understand what she's putting her mother through....

I wouldn't be too quick to judge the relationship between this girl and her mother. I would be willing to bet not all the blame for the "bad behavior" rest with the girl. Loving your child dearly doesn't necessarily mean you can relate to them. Some personalities are like water and oil, they just don't mix well. I would be grateful that my girl was adjusting well in the foster mothers care and I wouldn't begrudge her the treats she is getting. I would spend my time and energy trying to figure out a way to have a better relationship with my daughter.

It sounds like the child is very selfish. It seems most teen are all about them. They think of no one else. She will regret it in time. I would just leave her there, if they bring her home, she will just cause trouble to go away again.

That's how our system works now. When one of my girls was a teen and getting in trouble she was given community service and all. Half the time, she even gave her caseworker a hard time about going to do the community service. Still when the local fair came to town....she and other kids in her group all got to go. It was hard to explain that one to my other girls whom I could not afford to take but were not ones to get in trouble or cause trouble.