"I can't" ... or is it "How can I?"

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Usually, when we come across a challenge or a problem, what is usually the first thought that comes into your mind? Is it "I can't"? Or do you start asking "How can I... Solve the problem?" Many a time, when are faced with a problem, one can tell if you are a failure or not just by looking at your responses. If you just simply say "I can't" and give up, you never learn anything from your problems or your failures. But, if you take the time to analyze what went wrong to result in the outcome you faced, and then ask "How can I... do this better?" and then work upon it, then you are not a failure. You are a success waiting to happen. When we are just a kid, learning to walk, we will keep trying till we make it. Try observing the next time you see a child learning to walk. When they first try to stand up, they wobble and then they fall. Then with a puzzled face, they try again. And again... and again till they finally stand up and stay up. Then they try their first step. If they fall, the try standing up and try taking that first step again. And the kid will keep doing that till he/she is able to walk! A wobbly walk it may be, but they walk! They never give up trying! Nature has given each of us the choice to keep trying and trying till we succeed. And it is very apparent in children. Question then comes, why is it that when we become adults, with better thinking skills and decision making, some people become so easily discouraged by setbacks?